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As someone who has also worked in government records management, why aren’t the fools making a copy and giving him the copy already?

As someone who works in government records management, my heart goes out to the poor staffers whose job it is to tape his papers back together.

But he definitely isn’t used to hiding illegal activities, right?

Nor should you! Good for you.

When I look back on it, they were all laughing when it happened. Then when I poured my drink on his head, yelled at him, and punched him in the nose they stopped laughing. So at least, even if everyone at that party thought I was a psycho - and frankly I could give a shit - I didn’t let them get a good time out of it.…

Once I brought my (male, obvi) boss in to a sales meeting with a (male) client I had brought in initially. I am not a sales person but I was just giving the client an overview of how things would operate. My boss interrupted me to say we didn’t need to go into detail like that at early stages. End of the day I just…

Yeah, that’s is incredibly degrading and the subsequent treatment just makes it hurt so much more.

The fact that he got paid $ to do it was even more degrading - like I was a commodity. Anyway, I felt the same way you did - that creepy, weird bystander effect where even if people see you being violated, if they are right there, they will still try to act like it was no big deal or that you have no right to be angry.

I was at a party in my 20s, it was actually during the middle of the afternoon, and one guy paid his friend to pin my arms down and shove his face in my cleavage (not that it matters, but I was wearing a sweater and yoga pants). I freaked out - it was so horrible and degrading and disgusting. I dumped my drink on the…

My husband was the only guy who defended his female colleague, when the men made fun of her surgery techniques, with one of those men just days before wanting to take an appendix out of a patient who had no appendix anymore because that particular surgeon already took it out.

Yep. God I’m so sorry. I guess for me, sexual assault wasn’t unexpected, but abandonment was.

I’m so sorry. Sigh. Perhaps presumptuous of me, but I would bet that wasn’t an isolated incident for you. It sure wasn’t for me. I’ve just barely have come to terms with everything in recent years, and that isn’t even all encompassing. I am truly sorry you went through that. The rejection is so painful.

*hugs* Not very related, but I remember in high school when my ex, who had emotionally abused me and pressured me into sex during our relationship, told a bunch of people, some I’d never met, that I was a ugly whore, and he only slept with me to “get it over with”. I told my counselor, who called my principal, who…

Or if she does speak up loudly and insistently, “Why couldn’t you just play nice? You’re far too difficult to work with as an actor!”

Or the inverse happens - “geez, why is she YELLING? It’s like women can’t argue rationally - and they’re SO shrill”.

I think it’s a combination of a LOT of factors. It’s peer pressure, gender dynamics in group environments, projection, bystander effect and fear of reprisals.

I have also been a dubious witness to this sort of behavior. Do you think they close ranks because they are scared and projecting? I think that many of these dudes remember times when they committed a similar act or feel their moral compass could easily allow them a future despicable act. (It was a joke!) (Gee women…

Women get punished no matter what. “Why didn’t you speak up!?” “Oh you did? WHY NOT LOUDER!?”

Shawkat raised a good point in this interview, which is that afterwards, she received a lot of flack for not speaking up even more.