Do you tell black people they’re wrong when they call a ‘joke’ racist? Because that is a good parallel to what is happening here. People like myself are legally barred from immigrating to Canada. This isn’t funny.

Except it isn’t funny. It is ableist. It perpetuates the marginalization and denigration of people with disabilities. Yeah, I’m humorless when the joke is offensive, whether the offense be the more common forms like sexism or racism, or the somehow still ok in the mainstream media: ableism.

She wouldn’t be allowed to immigrate to Canada, so, no.

Mine literally said “Could Saint Paul, Minnesota really be the microbrew capital of the US?” and then scroll down to find... “Nope, it didn’t even make the list, but nearby St. Paul, Minnesota is #36.”

My daughter never got into the poop holding, thank gd, but is otherwise a frickin camel. Her bladder holds four times the liquid expected of a 4/5 yr old and she pees maybe, MAYBE, twice a day. She’s long been an every other day pooper, so no concern there (but they are what I call “man poops”). Apparently it is a…

Truth, though at least our gov funds our schools! ;)

As I lecture my students, at a university spitting distance to Wisconsin but safely well-funded in Minnesota, Wisconsin is to Minnesota as New Jersey is to New York: the smelly armpit next door with the (good) football team.

Actually I think from the second letter he’s secretly resentful of his wife, but in order to justify the work he put in and the sacrifices he made, he relies on the justifications easily provided by patriarchy.

My mother-in-law has a serious phobia of all birds because of growing up on a chicken farm and having to clean the coop and retrieve the eggs. It wasn’t just one hen, it was most of them, and the family attitude was, we all deal with it so you should too. Somehow she still gets on well with her family, but fuck birds.…

When I was backpacking through Europe, my mom put money into my bank account specifically to buy her an Hermes scarf. She had one from the early 1970s that was finally falling apart after much love, and wanted a replacement. I got kicked out of the main Hermes store on C-E - for being young, and clearly not the type…

That is the reason for the gap in Jewish weddings. It is called Yichud, and couples are expected to consummate the relationship. A close friend stands guard while the couple is having their alone time, and food and drink are already stocked in the room so if they want to consummate by breaking bread together, that is…

See, I actually found having a “theme” and “colors” helped with making all of the stupid fucking decisions that go along with wedding planning, BECAUSE I just did not give a shit. What color napkins? “our wedding colors are shades of orange and red because Fall Theme - so that burnt orange shade right there works just…

There is at least a score of lesbians/queer female bodied or identified folks in my neck of the woods! But we’re the only ones with kids, so... there’s that.
But also apparently they all work at Target because damn that place is like queer central. I feel so at home shopping there.

Directed towards a friend’s brother. I hate when this shit gets personal. I had a friend assaulted by Trumpeteers in NYC this past weekend as well.

Meanwhile, my campus has done shit, almost as much to molly coddle the predominantly white and somewhat conservative student population as they have to help the students…

I was on a plane taking off at LGA (heading to O’Hare, on American! - conspiracy!) and we lost an entire wheel off the landing gear - they aborted take-off and we came down HARD, and managed to stop because of those same buffer things that (unfortunately) stopped Pence’s plane from skidding completely off the runway…

Minnesota is a dual consent to record state - if she was not recorded as consenting to be recording then that tape should never have been entered into evidence or taken into consideration by the police/courts. WTF.

I mean, not like consent was considered much here at all, but legally speaking, you can’t record w/o…

I get the joke, but geography check: Beaver College was in Jenkintown, a suburb of Philly (as stated on the ad itself). Beaver County is in Western PA and is one of the counties between Pittsburgh and Ohio.

Indeed the person who developed the vaccine, Dr. Paul Offit at the University of Pennsylvania, has been the frequent target of anti-vax attacks, with accusations that he is in the pocket of Big Pharma (he is not, he’s a university professor and immunologist). The way his patent works is that he licensed it to a big…

A couple of AfterEllen writers/staffers started a fundraiser to replace Trish’s severance pay and it filled within a day. I’m not sure what else there is to do, except, perhaps, to support Autostraddle and other lesbian/queer women’s media. The excess proceeds from the fundraiser will be heading that way. https://www.g…

Condoms are actually very elastic and you could cram a heart in there if you were very determined, especially if you own a Vitamix.