I am not one of the people saying that. I don’t agree with that aspect at all. I am actually one of those type of partners and I know this isn’t true. Our genitals don’t always observe politically correct social narratives but just because they don’t doesn’t mean a person is predisposed to be a sexual criminal.

You’re right that there may be a link. But in absence of any data, it seems just as likely a hypothesis that there is an inverse correlation.

So I’ve tried to follow the whole discussion all the way to the end of the thread.

Yup. Then Miss Peach is chastising others for not having a broader perspective when theirs is pretty damn narrow

The subs are in charge, so to speak. I usually prefer to sub, but I switch occasionally. The study did not differentiate between Dom/sub.

As I said initially, some people think that BDSM gives them a license to abuse people without consequences. I think that finding young, inexperienced people who aren’t clear on the…

Good point. I’ll just forgo orgasms from now on because society.

Poor baby. I’m not the one hurling insults because I can’t deal with people who disagree with me and because my arguments don’t live up to scrutiny and make no sense. Insults are the domain of the intellectually weak.

No, disingenuous is you saying you don’t judge women for their sexual fantasies and that they’re free to do what they want but that the men who live out those fantasies with them are depraved quasi-rapists and that women are essentially enabling the rape of other women by doing so. Just stop it with your nonsense and…

Have you ever seen fem domme porn?

Bless your heart

You aren’t a monster. I’m so sorry you feel that way sometimes. I am not licensed as a psychologist at present, but my life’s work is human sexuality and women’s health. I do have a degree in psychology and will at some point be a doctor. I am a kink professional, and I do have many years of experience. That’s not to…

Because you are still shaming individuals and individual private acts in a misguided attempt to correct a collective, societal problem. Rape culture doesn’t spring from consensual private acts of bdsm, or even publicized videos of consensual rape fantasy. Rape fantasy springs from a culture in which actual rape is…

Wow! How eloquent of you! A personal attack literally lacking any argument to defend your position. I’m curious, were you elected to determine who is and isn’t a “shitty” feminist? Can you provide me with the list of qualifications of what makes someone a shitty feminist and a not shitty feminist? Do I need to…

I’m not dismissing her (presumably) feelings. I’m dismissing her right to speak for me.

We switch it up actually. What does that say about us that we get off on playing both roles?

LOL

Well, if you give a shit about women, you give a shit about them having their sexual needs met. So try not demonizing the people that straight kinky women want to have sex with—and then, to boot, telling them it’s all for their own good.

So, you don’t judge any woman who has those fantasies, but you do judge anyone who would be open to role-playing that fantasy? Please just openly shame me, instead of being so passive-aggressive about it.

No, your version of feminisim is shitty.

You don’t have to be interested. They exist, as do women who like, want, and ask for that. And your judgement of the men who indulge us, who have kinks, who play safely and with respect, is absolutely a judgment of us too. We don’t need other women to judge our partners as if we are too stupid or naive to know the…