“it speaks very poorly of your cognitive and maturity levels that all you can consider, in the context of a subculture that factually and demonstrably has a HUGE problem with rape, abuse, and violation of consent, is yourself.”

And she comes out insulting not just on the level of subculture but the personal as well.

I…

“Male dom/female sub BDSM mirrors and enforces the already existing misogyny and damaging gender norms of our society”

No, it doesn’t. It appears to on a VERY superficial level. However, if you talk to people in the lifestyle, you find a very sharp divide between people who essentialize that relationship, those who…

It is obvious you have not watched much of his stuff as he is also known for doing some pretty romantic stuff. Which helped get him a huge fanbase.

“I will absolutely judge men who want to enact them.”

I have been raped. I know precisely what it is. Acting out rape fantasies with my hubby is sometimes all about rape and sometimes not. Sometimes, it is me being able to go back to that moment and rewrite it so that I am the one in control. I know I can end it at any moment...and have on a couple of occasions, and my…

“I have never and will never shame a woman for having rape fantasies or getting off to rape simulations. But you can damn well bet I’ll question, criticize, and side-eye the fuck out of dudes who want to enact them.”

Actually she can...in a weird workaround way. It can be lowered for maintenance according to the law. All she has to do is make sure ongoing “maintenance” is in place—forever or until the legislature comes to their senses and changes the law.

Actually she can...in a weird workaround way. It can be lowered for maintenance according to the law. All she has to do is make sure ongoing “maintenance” is in place—forever or until the legislature comes to their senses and changes the law.

After all, Natasha never says she WANTS children. Only hates herself and thinks herself unworthy of a real relationship because she cannot have them.

Huh. Maybe it was the fact that her character was saying all of this to Mark Ruffalo’s character (and we know what a feminist Mark Ruffalo himself is) but I read that scene very differently. I actually read it as a feminist comment on the way society defines womanhood and the concept of happily ever after (for women)…

I'm honestly not sure how you got to things like "we can't freak out about being told to shut up" or "it can feel like we are being marginalized when our experiences are not the center of the conversation" from what I wrote. I asked—how do I help? I did not complain about how I was treated, just gave some examples of…

Thanks for the balanced answer. But let me be clear. This isn't about feelings for me. I mean, it's nice to be acknowledged, don't get me wrong. But it's not really what many of us are looking for. It's literally about "how do I help without seeming to be the problem?"

For example: how do you know what I need to learn?…

What if they don't result in black suffering?

That's the tough issue for a lot of us. I'm not saying that i never ever buy into the system that privileges me. Such a thing is literally impossible. But there IS a difference between people who are never aware that their privilege comes at the cost of others, and those…

So if we're not supposed to apologize, what precisely do we do?

If I speak out, regardless of my intent, I'm hijacking the narrative.
If I don't, I'm complicit in the systemic racism that my parents raised me to believe was the basest evil.

If I protest, I'm hijacking the narrative and making it about me again.
If I…

Unfortunately, it does appear to be a fetish, rather than mainstream.

I am missing where any of this was said to the children involved. So what's your beef with "the women above" (rather than just your own mother)?

Amen. And people just don't get how destructive it is to your moral when you are eating right and exercise and people assume you're unhealthy. Including DOCTORS. I would really like a t-shirt that says, "Before you call me unhealthy, let's compare our glucose, cholesterol, and blood pressure. Trust me, mine is almost…

Facts and unbiased sources make me hot. Just saying.

I'm honestly surprised that The Stolen Earth/Journey's End scores so low here, if for no other reason that than it contains what stands out to me as the most tragic moment in all of Doctor Who: The wiping of Donna's mind. More than any other post-reboot companion, I think Donna represents the average person—painfully…

I'm honestly surprised that The Stolen Earth/Journey's End scores so low here, if for no other reason that than it contains what stands out to me as the most tragic moment in all of Doctor Who: The wiping of Donna's mind. More than any other post-reboot companion, I think Donna represents the average person—painfully…