I’d argue Obama was a near perfect candidate.

No one is a perfect candidate. She was the most qualified candidate of the last 30 years. Couching statements about her in these terms just furthers the misogyny.

I will love this book. But, right now, I wish that, instead of memoirs, Barack, Michelle, and Hillary could collaborate on a manifesto covering: WHERE TO GO FROM HERE (guaranteed best-seller) with insider tips on proactive political action, and an important chapter on KEEPING YOUR SANITY WHEN THE INMATES HAVE TAKEN…

Yeah, I’m definitely curious about this book by in large part is that she has to be fucking FURIOUS and deservedly so. Not saying she’s a perfect candidate, but Trump’s victory has got to feel like a steaming turd that was carelessly laid over her decades of work. She has zero fucks to give, so I’m interested in…

everything is dreck

Yeah, those “join the conversation” posters were some really offensive bullshit given the real issues right now and the risks protesters are taking to make them known.

in an exploration of what that truly means to live life unbounded, unfiltered and uninhibited.”

I agree with you that while thoughts are not actions, they can *absolutely* alter your mind and thinking over time. But that isn’t everyone who has a taboo fantasy or even necessarily most people who have one.

You’re probably exactly right. This is pretty much why I don’t intend to date men anymore (I’m getting divorced). They commit the huge majority of violent crimes and their “fantasies” are sick ones of control and abuse that they do their best to make come true in real life without actually going to jail. You’re…

Literally the first thing in any safe choking guide is to not choke someone until their unconscious. I guess I’m being a bit presumptive in assuming this was common sense, being a sex worker. I forget that people don’t just know you can’t safely choke a person unconscious. I did mean breath play in general.

From a medical perspective, there is no safe way to choke someone out. Note that I am not talking about breathplay in toto. I am talking choke to unconsciousness. There is a reason why autoerotic asphyxiation is not an entirely uncommon cause of death. It’s combination of factors going on from people being careless…

It may be a common male fantasy - but males are the ones actually DOING this stuff in real life, so I say, run the fuck away.

Oh heavens, someone might not “find a man!” What would there possibly be left to live for????

breathplay to the point of unconsciousness is way outside the “norm” of BDSM and all the people i’ve ever spoken to about it would never go along with that because of how incredibly dangerous it is. i’ve even had therapists warn me against men who like to choke women, because of how dangerous and violent they tend to…

this is almost exactly what i was told by therapists. men who choke and fantasise about choking are dangerous. many women who die at the hands of their partners experienced being choked by their partner first, either during sex or during domestic violence. guys who like to choke women should be avoided at all costs.

and you should--chokers are often murderers. as in, men who like to choke, whether it’s in sex or as an aspect of domestic violence, are statistically more likely to murder you. i’ve been told this by therapists before, the ones who like to choke are the most dangerous.

yep--and as a couple therapists have told me, men who choke during sex or during domestic abuse are more likely to be the type who will actually murder you. the choking is a HUGE red flag.

All these kinda of comments seem to be from people oblivious to the fact that women get murdered all the fucking time by people who give less warning than that Jesus it is not worth it to wait and see I’m dying reading this don’t get murdered is always priority number one

People are who they are, in or out of the bedroom. It’s not sex positive to degrade women; that’s just more of the current culture we live in.

Sounds rapey to me. BDSM isn’t “against your will” — “against your will” is definitely rape. I’d ditch him quick.