There’s two things that I will NEVER forgive my ex for. One of them is the time when I came home after 8 hours at work + 2 hours round trip on the bus and he, the man who slept all day and worked nights, immediately asked me “what’s for dinner?” When I suggested that he might cook, sometimes, because he’s just…

I don’t understand how my spouse, a logical-minded programmer, cannot load the dishwasher in anything resembling an orderly fashion. He just piles everything in there randomly and all the silverware is jammed into the first slot of the cutlery tray.

Yes, THIS. I’m a part of a mom group where so many women complain that they’re so sick of basically being their husbands mother. They do all of his laundry, cook all the meals, take care of the children, EVERYTHING with almost no appreciation from their husbands. And the women are all so resentful. Part of me just…

I told my husband the other day that I don’t mind cleaning the toilets, but I hate scrubbing dried pee off the floor around the toilet. He laughed.

Omg omg omg. So my husband took a day off work a few months back alleging that he would do some cleaning and laundry. Which he did like one load pshhh, I get home after working all day and he’s playing video games (in a still messy living room) and he looks at me and says, “So what are you thinking for dinner?” I…

My blood boils over that shit. Lmao like having a vagina doesn’t mean I have some magical knowledge on how to scrub a tub or a toilet. It’s pretty simple. It is dirty, I spray it with cleaner and I rub it until it appears clean. The end. Repeat forever until I die.

HOW DO YOU NOT NOTICE THE TRASH?!

It’s so annoying when the choice is - do it myself, or nag him until he does a halfass job of it.

It’s more complex than that. For example, there are men who are under the impression that they are participating in a 50/50 split at home, but it’s more like 70/30. It’s just that they were raised by a generation where the split was 90/10, so it seems more equal. There are also a lot of things that happen right around…

It can be hard to put your foot down, because no one wants to have to nag.

Because A) they can get away with it, and B) have never been programmed to feel judged over their householding skills. Men are judged for being deadbeat dads, or unemployed, but not about cleaning. Not even now.

Exactly this. There is so much invisible work that goes into making sure a house runs. As someone who lives alone and half the time couldn’t give a shit, I don’t take care of it the way I do when I have a roommate or a boyfriend/live-in.

Everything from making sure the clothes that were washed are folded and put away…

Thissss! I went I away this weekend unexpectedly and my husband stayed home. I asked him to please clean the whole apartment (which I do on a regular basis) and after much gyration he agreed. When I got home it was mostly clean (but not very well done) and he hadn’t cleaned the bathtub because he “didn’t know how.”…

This is so me. I can’t count on my husband to do things, or when he does do them it will be sloppy or wrong. So I end up doing most everything. I worry that if I tell him to do things he’ll be mad or if I don’t praise him for doing something he’ll feel taken for granted. Meanwhile I’m doing intense deep cleanings of…

There’s a nasty bit where we, as domestics, end up just doing shit because it won’t be done right anyway. Kills me.

Because a lot of dudes literally don’t see or understand the full scope of the work as a result of socialization. Women see the unequal distribution of household labor because they’re the ones doing the work. It’s like how white people don’t see white privilege because they’re the ones with the privilege. People of…

While I understand that it absolutely is a thing, I do not understand why so many men are seemingly unwilling or unable to go at least 50/50 on household chores and child rearing, and why so many women put up with/allow it. As a guy myself, this dynamic just seems ridiculous.

How’s that saying go? “Love may not be forever, but a tattoo sure is.”

If you thought Jolie learned her lesson after the Billy Bob tattoo, you’d be wrong.

Black women are beautiful Goddesses.