Who cares? Flights are horrible. People eat stinky food, they take up too much space. On more than one occasion the asinine banter of adults has been more annoying that children. Get over it. Flying sucks. Kids are kids.

oh I have no doubt about that. I’m not taking a flight with my kids solo to get a shining gold star for passenger of the year. I was silently cursing, sweating, and uncomfortable the whole time with anxiety and fear. I did the best I could by myself. I also understand that its no one else’s issue that I was flying…

I feel like the embodiment of the Charlie Day conspiracy meme.

WHAT IF YOURE ONE OF THEM TOO

You could do all the things you couldn’t do because you had a partner, read a book when you want to read it, go to the movies whenever you want to, listen to music as loud as you want to, learn something new like a language or knitting.

It’s just fucking time. It sucks but there’s no cure. I finally forgot the name of the woman my ex left me for and it’s been nearly 3 years. Sigh. Hugs.

Wait 90 days. Then you’re over it.

I binge watch a lot of TV (this latest breakup I watched all of Bojack Horseman and it was nice to watch something where someone is doing worse than me and is still surviving. Also some of it was surprisingly emotional and it was nice to cry at something unrelated to my ex) and cry to my mom the first week, then reach…

At one point in my relationship with my person we broke up. I was absolutely gutted and devastated. I couldn’t comprehend how my soulmate wasn’t him.

As Dan Savage says: Every relationship fails. Until the one that doesn’t.

Just keep in mind that you’re going to feel better. Not tonight. Not tomorrow. But there will be a day when you’ll be doing something and you’ll realize that the pain you’ve been living with isn’t there.

I am happily married, but have an amazingly strong connection with an ex who, even though there feels something cosmic about the two of us, would never, ever work out (and did never, ever work out despite trying). It took a decade, but we’re now in a healthy friendship-lite.

Don’t worry about trying to process everything right now. It sounds like this is fresh - for the first bit, treat yourself carefully. I second the advice about giving yourself some time to wallow. Take the weekend, watch movies or TV, read, whatever you do when you need to pamper yourself. Then come Monday morning,…

I’m in the same boat as you, exactly. Partner of 7 years (lived together for almost 5) broke up with me a little over 3 weeks ago and I agree with Janelle, leaning into the shitty feelings does help. He broke up with me on a Wednesday night and I took Thursday and Friday off work, and just wallowed for four days. I…

Do things that are actually kind of fun and thrilling alone: go read a book in a bar, go to the movies alone, spend way too much time browsing in a store, get on a dating app even if you don’t go on any dates, make plans to see friends and follow through, listen to all the music you like that your partner didn’t, cook…

This book. It got me through a devastating break-up and I recommend it to all my friends. I literally had multiple people after that break up tell me they couldn’t believe how healthily I was coping with it.

I gave this advice to a friend once wen she was going through a divorce and she still mentions how helpful it was, so I’ll pass it on to you in hopes it helps:

Therapy and self-destructive behavior (nothing too dangerous but like binge eating and smoking). I don’t recommend the second part, but therapy helps. Also just letting yourself feel the pain until it passes. Hold on tight, you can do this!

Hi Whitney,

...sadly, after all the unbelievable shit 2017 has proved true, I am about 90% prepared to just completely take this woman at her word and accept that yes, she has indeed fucked a ghost.