im starting to see a guy who posts a string of conquests on his social media to avenge the divorce he didn’t want. six years ago. he kept his ex girlfriends up after he started posting me. so - hello. it’s disgusting, to be honest. i’m kind of humiliated.

we’ve both talked about our exes, but i always have something to make it clear it’s like, it obviously DID NOT work and i will make jokes about them disparaging, but not in a nasty way but just very clear what the issues were. his ex wife is a saint. in his portraiture of her. not only that, she earned x amount. he is…

we both drink too much and i’m a co-dependent that has had therapy for it

thank you so much for talking this has been a painful day.

it is a total red flag. i guess on the up side i have only invested 6 months on this, and to be fair - i got two fucking amazing trips out of it. i wanted to move on from the trips and move in together, make plans, and enjoy our romance and make it all happen. he is not there with me, and the shit he said about his…

i have a lot of trouble getting him to level with me. i think we need a break, need to let some things go, and if it’s meant to be we will come back and start fresh and continue. every time we fight he leaves me hanging. no wonder he’s divorced. i can’t really deal with this. i am responsible for some of the arguments…

i’m incredibly sad and defeated. to be honest. i’m so hurt that he wasn’t excited about our future. i don’t know what to do but give it a few days, focus on me, and move on with the dating apps. i will survive. but i’m pretty upset about this one.

i stopped texting / emailing. he’s at some old friends’ house tonight. some people who went to his previous wedding, fyi. which i’m a little pissed he scheduled this on a day i work. but - whatever. long story short - i’m toughing it out alone and upset with no closure tonight. trying to just focus on me and see what…

i think he’s possibly gone, like 100% in which case - i guess i take a breather and go back to the dating apps

he’s MIA today after our fights and my confrontations this am that were - well i think he was astonished by my ‘bitchiness’ but really i was just letting him no in no uncertain terms i need him to rally for US and i don’t want to live in the shadow of his failed marriage. i don’t know when i will speak to him again.…

let’s hang tonight. i just posted above in the greys. need lady advice. love you.

ladies, im having a terrible day. i’ve been seeing a guy for 6 months. we just went on two amazing trips. hawaii and europe. he put me all over his social media. i kind of freaked out about the next steps for us. and, i have been dwelling on - kind of obsessively - some comments he made about his previous marriage.…

hi honey. i have occasionally thought about it, but not taken it too far. please take care of yourself.

thanks so much ;) need it for sure and you are awesome and i see you give great friendship and advice to other women, including myself

i love the jezebel community and lurked a long time before i decided to start chiming in. xo p.s. ill be on SNS tonight. having a rough day!

it might cause me more problems to be honest so i think - it’s better to let it go. publicly. i tell everyone about it privately, already. because fuck that guy. and it’s something i went through. anyway, thank you, darling!

thanks you guys. maybe this is all i needed and i can leave it at this. i wouldn’t be able to fight legally and there may not be much to accomplish. i’m actually getting a new therapist today. not the primary issue i’m going to discuss but since i still have trauma i will address it with her, also.

very much. i feel like i just want to say i have two open letters about public figures i’d very much like to write. the first one raped me on our first date, emotionally abused, gaslighted, cheated then twisted it on me saying i cheated on him. he pushed me so hard in ibiza, i had an injury that lasted two weeks in my…

are you sure? seems like the sites that reported it aren’t being taken seriously. it obviously would be a major clue as to why he felt he had to do it. it’s been a real shock.

at lunch today i overheard a gay kid extensively detailing his relationship with a man who was in marriage counseling with a woman and had three kids. marriage for appearances is still all over the place. so many guys just feel the pressure to maintain two lives. the stories i hear from my gay friends about the amount…