You must have missed the day in 3rd grade when everyone else learned the difference between "wants" and "needs". You also must have missed the day we learned that the term "desire" is a synonym for "want".

“We need to be more polite” “Women are fickle, moody, and easily slighted, can’t take a joke, and are basically ruining everything because they’re tired of being treated poorly in STEM fields.”

This is a huge problem in my field too. I’m feminine, so people assume I’m incompetent! I’ve had substitute musicians who are playing in my band offering to explain to me how to play a part that was WRITTEN FOR ME before they ever heard me play. Their assumption? I was a college student and I needed their (first time…

EVERY time I see an article where women are trying to share their experiences and issues that they face, a SWARM of derailing people - mostly men - flood the comments with the same crap. But I’ve said that to men too! But it’s been said to me! But I am going to focus on a pedantic semantic issue rather than the topic!…

Tech CEO at an industry conference in SF this week: “So do you actually work for this company and know what you’re talking about?”

In my last job, we had hired an outside company to redo our network wiring and install a new firewall/VPN device. I asked the project manager to give me the administrative login and show me the settings and he said, “Sure. If you can understand it, I guess anyone can.” With a grin.

I am sure she cringes at your judgement...because it’s just totally possible to make $300 a month go much further than she has and be much healthier...

How fucking sad and pathetic of you. And, no, I'm not in my 30's or 40's. Late 20's. I still don't go around writing off other people as damaged.

Oh shit, I am that woman.

No reason to feel sorry for us. I'm awesome. I've met plenty of awesome people. Most of us aren't damaged or fucked up horribly. I do have an odd personality, but I'm damn proud of it.

Having a mattress/boxspring sitting on the floor seems like a pretty good loser indicator to me.

I've resigned myself to this:

So you don't drink coffee, tea, alcohol, or water. And you can't seem to grasp that most people have particular preferences when choosing dating partners, and that those preferences might exclude you from their dating pool. I'm beginning to think that it's not your lack of bed frame that's making people. It want to…

For me, it's a symbol that you have your life together. It says that you aren't transient and that you can afford at least one decent thing. I am a former floor bed owner, and I noticed a big difference in how my room felt and how visitors responded to me when I had a real bed.

Dude, what? Yes, a bed frame so you're more than a foot off the ground. So you're level with your nightstands and lamps. So you don't have to climb up out of bed in the morning you can just swing your legs over the side of the bed. This is such a dumb argument. You could put some bean bags on the floor instead of…

As someone who will never be The Prettiest Girl in the Bar, this is why I don't even bother. :(

Dear Dudes,

Spend the time you are now using harassing women about their dating preferences on the internet buying a fucking bedframe.

I'm not sleeping (or having sex) with you if you have a mattress on the floor. Grow up. It's not cute.

All super great points. I met my boyfriend on OKCupid last year (I was 23, about to turn 24 and he had just turned 30). And we moved in together after 3 months, so I would say it worked out!

I'm thinking a lot about this kind of stuff now, for several reasons. I've just survived my first serious health scare (yay, open heart surgery), and so I've been home for six weeks or so without much to do but look at all the junk. I've got some great stuff, but the sad truth is none of the next generation of my…