That’s the most depressing thing I’ve ever read. I feel as though they should make jeans for men so they can’t rape people. Like, it rips the guy’s dick off if he tried non-consensual sex.

OK. Two parts to my comment. First, I am so jealous of you. I really wanted to go to library school after I started to hate my post-college job, but when I looked around everyone I knew who’d gotten a degree in information science was working as an archivist, not at a library. So now I’m finishing up a degree in…

I remember feeling like a crazy asshole because i called my boyfriend (at the time; we are not longer together) 10 times in one hour. He called me back and was pissed off. Which was understandable.

I’m curious. Your wife would not want to know if you had a relationship with someone else, or if you just hooked up wit another person? When my last boyfriend and I were long distance I was totally ok with him sleeping wth girls, and I didn’t want to know. If he’d had a relationship with one of them, I’d have wanted…

He doesn’t want her? What? Yes, he does. He wants her and he wants his wife and he doesn’t want her to know about the wife.

I just saw this. I am so sorry. I was pissed off at Jane’s advice too. This sucks and I am sorry.

Other possibility is wife does not know, finds out, decides to stay in the marriage and he has to get better at hiding all his cheating because you know he’s never gonna stop

To use the Friends example though, Joey told his mother that his dad was cheating on her. It seemed like she was upset because now other people, her son, knew what he was doing. It is possible that the wife in this situation would feel the same - upset people know he’s cheating, or perhaps she likes knowing he sleeps…

I don’t understand this. She wants someone who wants a future with her. He pretty clearly doesn’t - and while a year is not very long, it is long enough to know if you have a future with someone. He takes care of her and is good to her, but if she wants commitment and he doesn’t, it is a bad situation.

I agree with you completely.

Huh. Maybe you and Jane read a different letter? Because I didn’t see anything about her having something great. He doesn’t want to talk about future plans with her - if she is ok with having fun right now, then fine. But she clearly wants a partner. He is not gonna do that for her.

Yeah, that made me sad. Plus, most of the women I know who’ve been crazy in relationships, myself included, were made to feel that way. Perhaps we didn’t respond in the healthiest of ways, but we acted as we did because of how our boyfriends acted. It’s not a vacuum and it makes me sad she blames herself.,

EXACTLY. He is not saying that he wants commitment, just not marriage. He is telling her that he loves what they have right now. Which means that if he meets someone he likes better, he will be gone. If she doesn’t want commitment, fine. But she does, so she should get out asap.

I think that, best case scenario, the wife and he have a deal and he just lied to the LW. If that is the case, then it might he humiliating to have her husband’s former gf tell her what is going on, but most likely she doesn’t have a clue and now she can make informed decisions about her life.

In regards to the last email, read Chump Lady man. It is a website for people whose spouses have betrayed them on a monumental scale. Let Mts Hole know. This is horrible fucking advice - if Mrs Hole does not know what her fucktard of a husband is doing, she can’t make informed decisions.

What are you talking about? I am taking about women in hospitals, not prisoners.

Feeding tubes.

I really don’t understand people saying SATC has not aged well. I think everything about the show that was shocking then is nothing now. The way they talk about food, about shaving, about sexuality feels out of date but the way they talk about friendship feels timeless. I mean, any show that talks about current events…

Her naked body was used for laughs? I thought it was more used to show Samantha’s narcissism. I thought the audience was supposed to admire her beauty.

Yes. I was so angry that the end of the series when Mr. Big and Carrie get together. And that Miranda pushed for it? On what planet? Mr Big treated her like shit. Carrie cheated on Aiden with him, he cheated on his fucking wife with her.