The end was heart wrenching for sure. There were some good moments of character development though particularly with Aleida and Daya. And the use of silence in Taystee’s trial was very powerful. Also seeing more of Caputo’s human side.  But yes, Badison and the block war seemed pointless and unnecessary.

I havent seen the show and probably never will but I don’t get why people think that mental illness must be addressed to explain her suicide. The fact is that not all suicides are the result of mental illness. I get the need to pathologise all suicide because its so hard for us to understand people making this choice…

I will say this. I was once a teenager and my parents had no freaking clue who I really was. I smoked, drank, did drugs, hung out with boys, went to raves, sneaked out of the house to go places with boys and to parties, etc, etc, etc. But I got good grades and went to a private, Catholic high school. I probably would…

Or maybe they’re just...quiet? Sorry...I get what you’re saying, but as a shy and quiet person with social anxiety I always hated being singled out and it made me so uncomfortable and unhappy throughout school. There must be other criteria besides “quiet” to look out for.

There is clearly some kind of reason that the vast majority of mass murderers in the U.S. are men and boys. In many ways all genders are capable of the same things—but when it comes to mass murder, clearly men and boys are the ones we need to direct our thinking/debating/efforts at.

Being provoked is often seen as a mitigating factor, sometimes even legally. The shooter may feel that the rejection provoked the attack, but the media shouldn’t validate those feelings.

It used to be that crashes and deaths caused by driving while drunk was just considered a part of the inherent risk of driving. People drive; people drink; sometimes bad things happen. Such is life. It took a concerted effort of pissed of moms of dead kids to say that conceptualization was fucked up and it’s not only…

Thank you for this. Thank you for giving us a link to send people when we want to pull our hair out with frustration and we don’t have the energy to perform the emotional labor of lamenting all this for the millionth time. Thank you for this straightforward corroboration of everything we want to scream in people’s…

In the legal sense, according to the penal code of NY, what Aziz Ansari did was sexual assault, though.

Rapists or wanna be rapists dislike being reminded that they’re rapists.
Hell, people who use drugs to rape often hate ‘real rapists’ and have justified not being rapists because they aren’t violent like rape rape.

“She feels awful, as if this is our responsibility because we’re white women. And it isn’t”

Meaning absolutely no disrespect, but as an attorney, I thing I find most tiring about “rigid constitutionalists” is how they are usually anything but when you press them. The Second Amendment, under the guise of the “unorganized militia”, grants people a right to own a firearm? Great, because the Second Amendment not…

Exactly. A person who will assault their partner, child, etc will do anything.

Domestic violence is the single biggest predictor of...well, violence. Until law enforcement and the legal system take it seriously, we’re going to keep discovering that mass shooters have long histories of domestic violence.

I had the depressing thought recently if so many white male shooters are labeled as “insane” “lone wolfs” because they don’t see the violence against women as that bad or abnormal until it spills out onto others.

I’ve had similar dreams, but with roaches! I wake up in a panic and certain there are roaches in my bed. I can only calm myself down by stripping the bed linens and checking. It drives my husband nuts. He tries to reassure me there is nothing there, but I have to see for myself.

I’ve not noticed any sort of trigger for mine but it is always spiders. Except for the one time it was a face hugger from Alien that I “saw” on the wall beside my bed. That one sent my entire family running to my room to save me from the murderer thanks to my blood curdling screams. My Mom was not impressed with me.

Yeah, the hypnopompic hallucinations are always bugs for me. Spiders are common, but also grasshoppers, centipedes, etc. Happily I really only get them when I’m totally flat exhausted.

I’m a mostly side sleeper and while I’ve never had sleep paralysis, I have had experiences where I and suddenly awake but immediately feel terrified, my heart is beating very fast, my muscles feel like they are engaged, and my ears start to ring and I refuse to open my eyes out of fear of what’s going on in my room.…

My GOODNESS, that was a whole lotta words and a truly condescending tone! Did no one ever tell you that simplicity is key?