Word up. Thanks for sharing. I am currently dating a man who happens to be a lean bean at 6’1”, and thinks [as he tells me all the time] that I am beautiful and sexy just as I am. It’s cool stuff, right there. :)

ultra sexy male-model version of Lionel Messi

These are the same guys who list their height as 6ft on OkCupid, then get all pissy when you two see eye-to-eye. Like, why are you mad? I told the truth about being 5’10.

This sounds beautifully therapeutic! Getting stuck in that shame spiral is going to happen no matter what, so maybe rolling around in it for one night is better than trying to muscle my way out of it for weeks. Last night after I closed Jez I inadvertently followed your advice with a couple glasses of vino and some…

I had an simlar conversation with my black boyfriend, too. I noticed that he had a tendecy to fetishize white women and had some internalized racism/sexist stuff when it came to black women. Before dating him, I thought the claim that any black guys dating white women were men who hated black women were totally…

We’re like height twinsies (minus the pageant hair). I, too, have found that guys around my height have been the ones who crack wise about it the most. My supposition is that it has to do with the fact that those guys, being 5’9 to 6’0 are generally not used to having a woman be taller than them. Shorter guys get used…

‘hot buttered damn’ is the best expression I’ve heard ever

In my experience, those short guys who take it in stride also make great feminist allies. They’ve dealt with toxic masculinity first hand their whole lives and have better understanding and insight. I wonder if that adds to the bedroom prowess :).

If I were going to make a gross generalization, it would go in the opposite direction: Short guys who are happy and secure enough to date tall women are not only kinder and better partners,

LOL I love these guys who try to act like no other man could possibly be attracted to you because you’re a little overweight. Like dude I don’t know if you’ve noticed but I get laid all the time so this “I’m giving you a compliment by sleeping with you” shit is crazy and it ain’t ever happening again so peace

“I would like to personally thank all those women who turned down incredible men because they weren’t tall enough.”

THANK YOU. Big lady here dating a shorter guy who’s crazy hot and amazing in every way, and this comments section is making me super angry and defensive! But I always wonder how I got so lucky as to end…

THIS! I say do and date who or what you like. Even reject whole swaths of people because of race or whatever. But please don’t lose your shit if someone points out to you how your preferences were potentially shaped by a particular social and cultural context.

Thank you so much! Sounds like a winner to me - thanks again for taking the time to help there!

Just to broaden your cultural knowledge.

I’ve always noticed that I get a little blue in the fall and winter, and then snap right back every spring. I thought I suffered from Seasonal Affective Disorder.

If anyone has earned the right to critique the conformity of mainstream music, it’s Grace Jones.

He wouldn’t ask a man the same question. That’s the problem.

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Because pretending that your (much smaller than average) sized body is some how subject to the same sort of negative treatment and bias that fat people receive culturally, professionally, and in healthcare is really offensive.

I disagree. I think that self-identifying as a member of a group that you are not actually a part of makes it that much harder for members of the group to work to reduce stigma associated with being members of the group.