Right? It’s the “just” in just adopt that makes me crazy. Personally my partner and I are childfree and if we ever decide to expand the family we know adoption —probably an older child, ideally siblings— is the best decision for us. But just because it’s an easy choice for us doesn’t mean it’s easy or right for…

Hoo boy, yeah “selfish” is one I got a lot when I started telling people I didn’t plan on having kids:

Would you like your stars in the form of an annuity or in one lump sum? I’m white and am very much in the racial and ethnic minority in my current country and many of my fellow expats are all “Woe! Woe! I have been laid low by racism and now we know the true struggle of minorities in America” followed by a bunch of…