I think this really needs to be tied to the environment of the hiring company. When I was a senior manager at a large tech corporation, paper thank you notes from candidates made a poor impression. Email was one of our product lines, the workplace was casual, and most employees were in their 20s and 30s —snail mail…

A few people I’ve talked with about Trumpcare have expressed the attitude, “Well, I have insurance through my job, and I’m a hard worker unlike those slackers who want to suck on the teat of my tax dollars, so I don’t have to worry about this.” Oh really? The Kaiser Family Foundation is a good source for stats on…

Yep, me too. I’m already starting to see our state reps shuffling their feet nervously as they realize what taking back Medicaid expansion will mean here.

This is Shelby. She’s a 6 year old rescue pit bull, the sweetest dog I’ve met in my life. The only creatures she threatens are the slow bees on the clover in our yard, resulting in at least one mouth sting each year. She’s affectionate and well-behaved, adores kids, charms people afraid of her breed, and is so beloved…

Other places the Trumpkin may have written, “It is A gReAT HONOR TO Be HeRe WiTH ALL My FRieNDS - SO AMAZiNg + WILL NeveR FORGeT!”:

I’m so tired of the single male libertarian dunderheads who think that paying for health insurance that covers preventative female healthcare is such a burden. When are you women going to Lysistrata these jackasses? A Hitachi vibrator is a billion times better than sex with a guy who thinks that birth control and…

It’s interesting to watch her trajectory through videos like the “Born Rich” documentary to this interview — when she was still a bit rough around the edges — to her very carefully curated image now. Frankly, I found her much more appealing as a clueless brunette teenager; at least she seemed authentic within her…

Yep, could be.

I’m not arguing with you, but I’m curious. Do you think it’s more a tool of whiteness or a tool of maleness? I’m a white woman and I’ve been on the receiving side of manners-based control language from men across the color spectrum but only from women who are white.

Totally agree with you on the brands with extended sizes online. I need to wear different sizes top and bottom in things that fit close to the body, and plus-sized tops often look like I’m wearing a football jersey sans padding. I’ve found that with brands like Land’s End, for example, they might have a 16 or 18 in…

I’ve been raging - mostly silently - over the prevalent attitude that HEALTH = MORAL SOUNDNESS = GOOD AND WORTHY. It’s obvious in comments from the asshats who voted for the AHCA (which I consider a symptom of their obvious pre-existing mental health condition, but hey, the new rules wouldn’t apply to them). It’s…

I don’t get a lot of thigh rub, but I sweat like a ... very sweaty thing... if it’s hot or I’m active, so I got a pile of 95% cotton/5% spandex bike shorts at Forever 21 (looks like they’re still on the website in plus sizes at $4.90, and there are other options in regular sizes but more expensive, no basic ones).…

I don’t get a lot of thigh rub, but I sweat like a ... very sweaty thing... if it’s hot or I’m active, so I got a…

It’s complicated, as such things usually are, and I don’t mind you probing because it helps kick me out of my seething complacency. He has a great job: well-paid, 10 minute commute, rarely works a full 40 hours each week. I don’t currently have a paying job, though I volunteer, take a college class, and I’m…

It’s the trade-off that evolved over 10 years of marriage, resulting in rather traditional roles. Initially I took on more of the domestic work because I gave up a great job to move to his state and I was better at it. Then, my stepchild — who lived with us — needed more attention and stability when I was…

I just threw out my paperback copy of this book last week! I bought it at a used bookstore when I was in my early 20s, when my culinary horrors included a revolting tuna casserole topped with corn flakes (the only crunchy thing I could rustle up in the house I shared with other students). The recipes were terrible,…

Fuck these fucking fucks. All of them.

He had a job, even though we had to push him and his friends — and their parents — acted as if we were abusive for making a middle class suburban kid work. *eyeroll* I was talking about the time before he had one.

Adding the usual disclaimer that if you have or have had an eating disorder, be very careful about restrictive eating plans. As someone with BED that’s currently under control, and I’m 105 lbs down from my highest, I love the idea of intermittent fasting. However, I’m self-aware enough to know that the temptation to…

Congrats on the weight loss!

In addition to the great advice I’m seeing here, I’d say, “Doing something hard for a limited amount of time makes it bearable.” My parents were the sort who retired from the jobs they started as teens, for whom nothing was short-term. In my 20s when I had to pick up a second and third job to break even, I went…