In it right now. Everything leading up to it has been a lot worse than this part. My husband and I are still friends at this point, but I don’t know what will happen as it goes on.

I am a divorce attorney and tell all my clients: even if you want it, the divorce will be the hardest year of your life. Nothing enjoyable about the process! Even when it’s amicable (which I hope yours was).

Something about the way you wrote this is breaking my fucking heart. Ugh. That sounds so awful.

It’s almost 5 years since we separated and 4 since the divorce was final and only in the last six month did I finally stop feeling like I wanted to set my ex on fire. There was nothing amicable about our split as he attempted to continue to exert whatever control over me he could muster and turned my family and his…

It’s even less so for the kids, who still have to deal with a couple of divorced assholes for life, even when they think they’ve washed their hands of each other. 😥

Yes, agreed. Divorce is devastating. Full stop. Nothing enjoyable, not even “darkly”.

There’s nothing enjoyable (darkly or otherwise) about about the process of divorce, even if divorce is something you want. Especially, perhaps, when there are children involved. Mine dragged out for 4 /12 years after my ex and I separated, and I’m amazed sometimes that I managed to get through it. In some ways —…

Jesus — this. It’s the most painful thing I’ve ever been through.

divorce is horrible and all of those things

I have. This was nearly a dozen years ago. Today I’m married to a wonderful woman and have gorgeous daughter. <3

I have been grateful for my friends that just LOATHE my ex at times, it has been nice to unload on them, but I couldn’t handle it all the time. My husband has been amazing about not fully hating him and understanding the complexity of the situation, I don’t think I would have married him if he hated my ex as much as…

Thank you <3 This shit really hurts, but I’ll get through it.

Darkest part? When I just wanted to be civil and pleasant to preserve my energy and sanity, but twelve plus months later was still receiving 150 word text rants and apoplectic emails.

I can’t decide if the darkly funniest part of my divorce was battling the suicidal thoughts, being on anti-depressants for two years, or loosing my job because I couldn’t get out of bed most days.

She has a book coming out next year about the subject, promising “highly tactical, solution-oriented content” for women in the office.

Trump seems to really like his new talking point: Hillary Clinton didn’t solve EVERY SINGLE PROBLEM EVER as Secretary of State so therefore she can’t be president.

“He is the only one who can.”

Divorce is terribly, horribly sad. When you’re happily married, it seems hard to imagine that happiness will ever end, but time can change people, and sometimes that change makes people incompatible. If it’s worth staying in the marriage and trying to work things out, by all means try, but when you realize that’s not…

I’ve had a long term relationship go bad and I was so glad we were not married. I cannot even imagine the pain; sorry you had to experience it.