I dunno, I think it depends on how you define revenge? If you make sure that someone’s bad actions have consequences, that’s different than doing something unrelated to get back at them, and to me the latter is more “revenge”. In our household we refer to the former as “karmic enforcement” - as in, if the universe is…

I think the bit about controlling the narrative re: when to connect dots and let someone know about his porn work is spot-on. I’m in a sort of reverse situation, in that my personal life sometimes shapes how people view me at work.  My husband is much more famous in our field than I am, and early on when I hadn’t…

Thanks for solving the mystery!  I knew I could count on strangers on the internet to solve it for me :)

I wonder whether it’s a medical thing?  I hope not, because that’d really suck, but a serious medical condition is seems like a reason someone might unexpectedly step down from reelection.  

Yeah, you can’t get upset with someone for not being able to drive when there was no notice it’d be necessary, but ffs just admit you can’t drive and hire someone or call 911 - don’t risk both your lives like that.  I’d seriously consider divorce if my spouse was that reckless with my safety.  

Off topic, but I was watching the Adam Schlesinger memorial concert earlier this week, and one of the songs they played was a cute song about “I don’t wanna work, don’t wanna work at Guitar Center.” I didn’t recognize it as a Fountains of Wayne song, so I tried to look it up, but the title “Guitar Center” is fairly…

Not in the way you mean, no. I am married to someone who’s much more established in our field than I am, so sometimes I need to negotiate around other people’s stuff re: that, but not exactly the same thing. After some early mistakes, I’ve learned to carefully gauge when in a new professional relationship to let the…

If we’re going to talk spooky Muppet projects of yore, what about Ghost of Faffner Hall? Or, does having no cross-over characters between that and other Muppet works make it technically a non-Muppet Jim Henson project?  

No worries - I wasn’t taking your comment badly.  It just seems like sobriety must be particularly tricky in an industry like that, since people in recovery are generally advised to avoid those sorts of settings.  

At least LW2 seems to recognize that the insecurities are entirely his thing, and thus his problem to deal with?  A lot of people don’t get that far, which makes me think he’s got a chance if he can start working with a good therapist.  

My now-husband kind of panicked in a similar situation. He asked me (a coworker at the time) about going out for drinks after work, and having learned my lessons about understanding parameters before agreeing to something (I’d been tricked into a surprise date by a coworker before - yay, being a woman in a…

I think working in standup & entertainment means that you need to figure out how to be sober in non-sober settings - the industry’s reputation isn’t exactly teetotaling.

The precedent it would set if they overturned based on this would be horrifying - hopefully any responsible judge will recognize that (? fingers crossed). I somehow doubt they similarly checked that no one had those little “I donated to my local police” stickers on their car or whatnot. What sorts of “political views”…

At least they didn’t suggest that thing I saw a while back where interior designers were shelving the books with the pages out, so that it’s just a neutral wall of paper - good luck *ever* finding a book again with that setup.

But seriously, that isn’t safe - Teslas aren’t actually self-driving! They’re self driving 95-ish percent of the time, but there’s lots of edge cases they can’t handle well, and the world is full of edge cases. If there’s a billboard on the side of the road with a stop sign on it, your car will brake in the middle of…

Not dissimilar from the contrast between Rowling’s anti trans stuff and the Harry Potter politics.  

The sense of scale is strange in this picture - they look like little doll houses.

That’s what I was wondering - looks like an eliminated project runway dress

I didn’t necessarily read it as being blaming her, just pointing out that she isn’t and shouldn’t be missing that actual person, because he’s objectively awful. That being said, I don’t know that pointing that out is, on its own, super helpful - some advice on how to move on after that realization might help. On the…

I really liked Ender’s Game when I was younger, and I think it’s still a mostly really good sci fi book, but finding out about Orson Scott Card’s homophobia and the weird aspects of his obsessions with it in particular (he’s convinced that all homophobes are pedophiles, in a way that seems a little bit like…