When I was pregnant with my first kid I read some child psychology books (I like research!), and there was one (Nurtureshock) with a chapter about parenting and race that was really eye-opening. Parents think that if they don’t bring up race, kids won’t notice it, but kids notice racial differences as early as 6…

One of my friends is the same mix, and she always gets mistaken for the most common minority wherever she’s currently living - when she lived in Texas people always thought she was Mexican.  

Oh!  Forgot the “how I learned better” part - learning more about systemic racism, and how “colorblindness” allows it to continue to thrive.  

Re: snooping, I don’t particularly like the “ends justify the means” attitude - I agree, if something vital was learned it was, in the end, a net positive, but if the snooping was done without any reason to support it, it was still a badly motivated action. It just might be the case that you did a bad thing, but your…

The idea that people can be “colorblind” when it comes to race - that “I don’t see race” is a good attitude. Obviously, racism/bigotry = bad, but race is an intrinsic part of peoples’ identities, and one of the first things we see about them, and it’s at best silly, at worst an erasure to think otherwise.

I’m pretty confused by how she could be ok with the whole theme of the event, but find those particular lyrics that objectionable. If she really didn’t feel she could sing that piece, she probably should have stepped down and offered the role to someone else.  Or maybe they could have swapped who was singing what…

Yeah, I did that straight away :) (as did a bunch of other relatives)

High school/young adult?  Old enough to like rom coms, but not old enough to be thinking about them to critically

Yeah, that bit was maybe a bit too literal, but the whole things has a slightly heightened reality feeling to it anyways, so it didn’t bug me too much.  One of those things that works ok as movie shorthand, but wouldn’t make any sense in actual life.  

Thanks, that axe idea has potential :) I’ll get in touch with the one uncle who lives close-ish and pick his brain for ideas

So, I guess things didn’t work out between Coach Bombay and Charlie’s mom?  Were they already broken up by the end of the trilogy?  I’m pretty shaky on D2 and D3, aside from the hilarious bit where Iceland was the mean ubercompetitive team in the international competition.  

Everyone is being very supportive (or else being very quiet, but mostly the former). I guess I just mean, this has been a really rough time for them, and I’m trying to figure out something to send them that would be fun and also show we’re supporting them as they try to figure out their truth. Most “coming out gift”…

Hey, everyone!  Any advice for how to show love and support for a newly out trans woman relative who lives too far away to visit?  They’re in their 60's and pretty quiet, and a lot of what I find online seems to be for people who are younger and more open/confident in their identity.  

One of my mom’s siblings came out as a trans woman yesterday, a couple weeks after the death of their wife of many years, and I’m trying to figure out something I can do to show them support. They live very far away, so I can’t see them in person. Anyone have suggestions? A lot of what I find online seem like things…

Yeah, that bit is odd - while mental health issues might explain bad/abusive behavior, they don’t excuse it, or oblige others to forgive it.  She can champion mental health issues but still not be able to forgive her own abusers.  

Caretaking is totally exhausting - we made it, go us!  

I’m with you!  I mean, there are questions of degrees - no one’s perfect, and expecting perfection in a partner is a great recipe for being alone, but if they’re a bad person/a bigot/a narcissist/etc, then they’re also a huge waste of your time, no matter what draws they might have.  

Gymnastics, Ice Skating, women’s soccer - those are promoted primarily at the Olympic level, where they’re some of the biggest draws. They make a lot of money.

Giving people inferior tests based on their gender, not their risk profile, might not be murder, but it is, in my book, negligent and criminal if anyone dies. They are clearly stating that the lives and health of the women matter less than the men.

Isn’t it funny how a product that gets no promotion or marketing doesn’t make as much money as one that does? Until they’re making equal efforts to sell both, you can’t argue that the women’s teams don’t make money.