Oh, I agree. And it's also worth noting that 33% of sexual abuse (and most of the non-sexual abuse) is carried out by female caregivers. The risk of a child suffering ANY abuse at the hands of a babysitter is infinitesimal in any event.

There are numbers here: https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/ojjd… — non-family MALE caregivers are more likely to sexually abuse (77%), but non-family female caregivers are more likely to "physically" abuse (64%) those in their care.

Actually, very few children are harmed by non-family caretakers. Fewer than are harmed by strangers, and far, far, far fewer than are harmed by parents or family members.

I agree that it's fucked up. And another aspect of it that is fucked up is that when a guy has a kid we kind of expect him to all of a sudden start sharing childcare responsibilities, hanging out with the kid, taking an interest in the kid's life, enjoying kid activities. But if he does this before he has a child…

I had an awesome guy babysitter when I was a kid! His sister babysat me first, and when she went away to college she passed the reins to her younger brother. He was much better than most of my girl sitters, at least in my limited recollection — they mostly wanted to sit on the couch and watch soap operas IIRC. …

I love Pinterest. But I'm an artist and most of my pins are art/design related. I use it mainly to collect inspiration for my work. It's a pinboard — something artists and designers use all the time — and something I have used all my life in "hard copy" form — having a virtual one is really great and useful to me.…

I donated. I hope they raise a jillion dollars and throw the best freaking party in the history of ever.

I'm already married to a Piz, which is part of the reason I love Logan for a fantasy boyfriend.

You mean you wanted more Dick? ;)

I've done the same thing. Nobody's perfect. I've found it can be a good teaching moment for my kid, even as I beat myself up about it inside.

No one is saying that. Absolutely no one.

I've done both and staying at home is harder.

Yep. I work, but have many friends who are SAHMs and SAHDs, and the vast majority of them are feminists. I think they would be as horrified as I am (maybe more so) that this woman purports to be their spokesperson.

It's not. I do it and most of my friends do as well.

It can last longer - it is hormonally related but our bodies aren't machines, after all, so people experience it differently. Mine lasted closer to 4 weeks with some residual feelings of sadness until about 8 weeks PP.

Colic is correlated with a higher incidence of PPD. My first baby was colicky though his was evening colic (4-8 PM constant crying, every day), not all day. And even that resulted in us putting off having a second child for 5 years. Congrats to you for getting through it.

Yup, exactly the same time. I called it my "bad time." It usually lifted around 6 or 7 PM but the hours between 4 and 6 were so awful I would dread their arrival starting around noon. And for me, as well, it lasted well past when "normal" baby blues are "supposed" to lift. It was terrible for a month, better the…

I filled out the form but it was not until my 6-week appointment. Also, the form was a little vague, IIRC.

A thought — while a mother's first OB appointment is usually not for 6 weeks, a newborn is usually seen by his pediatrician immediately after discharge from the hospital and then at 2 and 4 weeks. My son's pediatrician happens to also be my GP (he's a family doctor), so at my baby's first appointments he asked me…

EXACTLY