It’s complicated- black men weren’t being lynched because white women were offended that they looked at them, it was white men thinking white women belonged to them, and punishing black men for looking at their trophies. I don’t really believe black men have it better than white women, I think they mostly face the…

Start blocking off afternoons on your calendar and wearing very nice business clothing/makeup/haircut/polished shoes on those mornings. Even if you’re not interviewing elsewhere, make them think you are.

Black men were considered worthy of a right to vote long before white/any women were.

I believe it. We think we know our own taste buds, but we don’t.

I was gonna say: I keep frozen OJ concentrate in my freezer for impromptu mimosas.

Limeaid concentrate is my go-to margarita mixer.

Concentrate lemonade and limeade, on the other hand, is the shit.

And fuck that ‘just knock’ tripe. I don’t want to have a conversation while shitting in public. I want you to realize the stall is occupied without having to verbally tell you, hence the locked door.

I’m curious to see the reaction to this, given the outrage among Jez commenters when a woman in America live-tweeted her abortion.

We have a 15-year old daughter and a 13-year old son, and I think it’s important that we all watch this together as a family. Boys need to get the message loud and effing clear, and girls, sadly, need to think about how to protect themselves from predators disguised as peers. The knowledge that these rapists take…

So, according to this chart, cats are the cause of divorce.

Even “safe” and consensual porn is often somewhat problematic, though. Firstly, of course, most of it is made from a male perspective, and so naturally the male in the average straight porn video is the character we’re expected to empathise with, while the women are there to satisfy him sexually, and are more…

The idea that the vast majority of Internet porn is “empowering for women” is such bullshit, and such a bizarre feminist stance. Is it some kind of defense mechanism when women say this kind of thing? Kind of like, if they can OWN it, then they won’t have to look at how terrible so much of it is, and how it actually…

I’m definitely not anti-porn, but I will absolutely say that a lot of it that has crossed my path has been frighteningly misogynistic and purposefully degrading to women.

Seriously. I’m not sure how accurate they are (as is the case with any study), but some “studies have shown” that men who consume large amounts of porn can’t even get it up for “real” women anymore. They look at a certain very unrealistic ideal and no flesh and blood woman can fulfill that fantasy.

Whether porn is systematically destroying the moral fabric of America is a conversation for a different day . . .

If nothing else, it’s a discussion worth having. The knee-jerk way people will refuse to hear any criticism of porn, saying no no no, it’s nothing but empowering for women- well, it’s damn tiresome. My BIL was in the porn marketing business for a time, much to my sister’s chagrin. She said she noticed a spike in…

Yeah- I absolutely think that some porn can be fun (and we’ve always had some form of it as a culture), and also that suppressing/denying it probably isn’t the way to do. That doesn’t mean that there isn’t a lot of disturbing shit out there, and I am very curious about how it has affected how people 25 and under view…

I don’t think I can be convinced that porn is healthy for men. Ladies, whose boyfriends/husbands are pornheads, tell me honestly and not the “sex positive, politically correct, men pleasing” version, do your partners porn habits mean great/improved sex with better, more frequent orgasms for you personally?

I know this isn’t a really popular opinion outside of radical feminism but I think there should be a conversation about how early exposure to porn influences the way men see women. Namely, porn tends to treat female actresses like objects. I remember reading an article by a former porn actress who admitted that there…