Man this hits so close to home. Life isn’t bad as a single person, but I’m in my early thirties and I’ve never had a long-term relationship. I have tried to fix everything that people have told me is wrong with me. I have dated and dated and dated. I’ve put myself out there to the point I’ve had to rebuild my…

I appreciate your vulnerability in writing all this.

I nominate all the women who come here or at The Root or at Splinter and write about their awful experiences, call it abuse, harassment, rape, etc.

“I’m such a horrible person, I’m so sorry, you must hate me right now” is a classic tool of the abusive partner.

All the harassment stories that have come out have had varying degrees of repulsion for me — Weinstein, horrified; Batali, scandalized; but these guys my first visceral reaction is “where do these fuckers get off with this shit?” Like these nerdy fuckers who couldn’t get a date in high school now reveling in their…

Spurlock and his ilk are doing exactly what my ex used to do: preemptively come out and admit shitty behavior, verbally and publicly self-flagellate, agree with every assessment critics make about their character so they don’t have to listen, and hijack the conversation to talk about what huge assholes they were, but…

So Sandra Bullock’s doing the eating in every scene bit that Brad Pitt did in the original trilogy? Good, because that’s the only reason I watched the first three films. If someones’ not literally chewing the scenery, I’m not interested. I hope she gets some meaty scenes with like a mile-high pastrami or something…

Why is it always dragging out the female relative? You could be adopted in a sea of men and know not to grab onto other people - it’s respect for boundaries regardless of equipment/attraction

Yeah “these guys” have sisters. But “these guys” also have brothers, friends, fathers, co-workers, sons, uncles, etc. Quit acting like you had no idea. I’m tired of this bullshit.

And to compound this, that Hillary Clinton isn’t.

It still really fucking distresses me that Trump is forever going to be memorialized in the Hall of Presidents. That’s a petty and small thing compared to all of the other horrors that he’s inflicted on us in the past 11 months, yet it still cuts me deeply.

I believe in buying dogs from reputable (ethical) breeders.

I’m glad you shared. I have a few bully stories where shit was clearly happening in their life and we were all too young and immature to deal with it properly.

it does happen. i know at my 10 year high school reunion i was one of the many meatheads that was apologizing to the first openly gay kid in our class for how we acted towards him back in the day. looking back i honestly feel mortified and i think in the process of becoming an adult you realize that a lot of things…

I’ve witnessed my partner really taking inventory of his shit. He told me a story about being in high school and throwing a drink in a girls face because she wasn’t giving him the attention he wanted. I was floored and distraught. He said he apologized years later and fully recognized how fucked up it was.

I had a high school frenemy/bully (female - still) apologize to me during college.

People grow up. Hopefully.

Bullies frequently show remorse when (if) they grow up. Others go on to become CEOs.

I wondered if someone finally took him to task on his behavior or if he saw or read something that made him reflect on his actions.