Or, maybe given Alexis’ fluidity with terms, he decided to keep it simple for the public instead of making this about pronouns and defaulted to “her”.

Both that post and the one linked here are by the same person. In both posts, Richmond flows back and forth when describing Alexis’ gender throughout Alexis’s life, referring to Alexis as both he, she, brother, sister. I’m not sure what you thought spamming the facebook tribute was supposed to prove, random idiot on…

I’m coming from the other side of things from you. I’m not Black, but I am trans.

Nothing in that Facebook post explicitly supports what you’re saying.

No, it wasn’t correct at all. Nothing you’ve said has been correct ever at any point in this thread. Alexis used different pronouns depending on whatever mood s/he was in and all of the siblings knew that. This has been made abundantly clear to you on this thread I’m guessing around 30 times at this point.

And? So you went and found a more recent Facebook post that doesn’t really excuse the general shittiness of your reaction to his first statement and his second statement still doesn’t really support any of the stupid shit you said the first time around. So why the fuck did you wallpaper the thread with that? Now you…

This isn’t about Leela Alcorn it’s about Alexis Arquette. Someone who was very vocal about the overwhelming support from their siblings.

As others have pointed out, the information about how Alexis chose to identify is easy to find but you couldn’t take five minutes to look it up. Instead, you had to jump at the…

Or you could just take 10 fucking seconds to Google Alexis’ complex gender identification before throwing baseless accusations at a grieving family. The only person misgendering him/her here is you.

THANK YOU. The SJW hand-wringing on this thread is peak fucking Jezebel. The Arquette family has been extremely supportive and open about Alexis’ transition(s), and to go ahead and “assume” misgendering from such a carefully worded statement (when his/her evolving gender identification is easily Googleable) is a…

Except here it is a famous family who has been publicly supportive of their sibling. For crying out loud, use the effing Google before making unfounded comments judging a grieving family. There are a lot of families who misgender the dead, and they tend to make it pretty damn clear. To knee jerk blame a family when…

I really would give him the benefit of the doubt that he is using the correct pronoun ;) Remember, Alexis was surrounded by his family at his death.

It’s so obvious in the block quote that he’s being very, very deliberate in his use of the terminology. Your skepticism is totally unfounded and actually pretty fucking cynical. You’re making this about you and your personal experiences when it’s really clear the guy knew exactly what he was saying and said it with…

I do understand what you are saying, but besides the fact that the Arquette’s have been extremely public in their support of their sibling, the fact that Richmond’s statement even read specifically:

Not really. Not when the family you “have doubts” about is well known and has a very well-documented and easily verifiable history of supporting their transgender/gender fluid sibling. This isn’t some anonymous person from an j known family. Before making unkind assumptions about grieving siblings, you could have…

If you think that's what's going on, then you know nothing about the Arquette family and are an asshole.

It’s neither fair, nor appropriate, nor decent, nor logical given the overwhelming evidence that the Arquette family supported all of Alexis’ transitions. Your doubts are based on nothing other than your own self involvement, nice try though.

I’m sure you know better than the families of departed transgender folks what language to use, but you have zero ownership of it, it’s not your place to judge. The people who are left behind when a loved one departs are free to do whatever the fuck makes them feel better, or do you believe that funerals and wakes…

dude, the information is out there. alexis had a fluid and complicated gender identity and their doting family wouldn’t be blatantly insulting them by midgendering the obituary.

Guilty until proven innocent is definitely the best approach to take in life, especially when critiquing someone’s expression of grief on the same day as his sibling’s death. Assuming the worst in people leads to happiness. Keep on.

“It’s sadly common...” You are being patronizing and disrespectful right now. Alexis’s family did NOT “misgender” him. They were supportive of hist transitions, which were multiple, and his evolving pronoun preferences. Ironically, it is you who are erasing their support and love in order to make his narrative fit…