Did I say that modern medicine hasn’t saved the lives of thousands of women and babies? It’s not a black and white issue. It’s not that birth was broken and doctors fixed it. Some women were always going to have high risk pregnancies (around 10% of all births are considered high risk) and they died without the…

Initially modern.methods actually INCREASED the mortality rate, and in many cases, still are. There is a massive disconnect between what women need to do during birth and what doctors WANT them to do during birth. Things like having women lie on their backs throughout Labour increase patina nd make it harder to give…

Do whatever is best for your mental health and don’t feel guilty if you don’t engage with her. Sending good thoughts your way.

I know right I wish they had that card. It’s all I love you none of you have irreparably fucked up my live and never really want to talk to you again.

Wishing you peace in whatever decision you make.

It’s hard to know, I mean I don’t know your mother at all, but sometimes even a “good” response might be a bad one down the line. But whatever you chose it should be because you genuinely want to, not because you feel guilty.

I’m curious as to what your therapist said? I feel like sending a card would just be inviting her into your life... like a vampire.

Don’t know if it will help you, but one of the things I do when I start to spiral into guilt is to ask myself, “how could you make Mom happy?” I run through all the weird scenarios of what she THINKS she wants me to do, but it’s never enough. If I called her all the time, went to see her, etc., it would just enable…

As another kid of a borderline mom, it is impossible to show them you are doing well. They don’t see reality and no mater what you cannot ‘prove’ your worth to them. I struggle with not sending my pay stub to my mom with a picture of my middle finger but I know it would never mean anything to her

I was just looking for one of those at CVS. I chose a generic Enjoy Your Day (you won’t be hearing from me) card.

The title alone made me cry. I needed this though. Thank you.

Thank you so much for this.

I was adopted as a baby, and emancipated at 14 from my second family for these reasons. I find this time of year especially hard and it’s always good to know I am not alone in this.

I have relatives who are like her parents and they're still savoring what an awful person I am based on things I did as a small child. You can't win, you can just cut them off in the way that's truest for you. This was awesome.

Perhaps they'll even blame their relationship problems on her.

I think too many people assume that, for anyone who experiences acquaintance rape, that experience will act like a switch on their feelings, and, BOOM, you'll clearly feel like that person is an asshole. That probably happens in some cases. But when it is someone to whom you are close, whom you trust, with whom…

There is no procedure that sticks scissors into a brain. None. Not ever. Not even late term abortion. No. No. No.

you consider zygotes babies? yikes.

Hell, I had an abortion once and I can't say that I saw an abortion.

it has become a problem for a generation of younger women