I caught the part where you said you don’t like anyone using that word, that was very clear.

The phrasing in the OP made me think you were white. I apologize if I was wrong about that. Are you black?

Because it is certainly not my place, as a white lady, to press you on N word usage if so (refer to my “not my business”…

How is “get consistent” not saying “if black people say it, why can’t we”?

Telling someone how they can/cannot refer to themselves is (1) condescending, and (2) not our damned business

Do I want to walk into a room where my girlfriends are chanting “you better work bitch!” a la Britney Spears? Yes. Do I want to walk…

Sorry I didn’t respond sooner, I don’t check my notifications regularly. I have lots of thoughts about this because I (college educated white woman) used to do anti-gentrification work in a low income black neighborhood. Always glad to share what I’ve learned

Ding dong this relationship is dead! I was low key in #FreeJLaw mode after seeing a few interviews with them together. She looked exhausted and disoriented, not her usual hilarious and outgoing self - meanwhile he was prattling on and didn’t seem connected to her. Looking forward to seeing her again soon, hopefully…

It’s totally possible but it involves a fairly substantial commitment to difficult acts of relationship building and significant time and resource dedication over a number of years that most people aren’t willing to make. (Hence, most people really shouldn’t do it). Big emotional maturity is needed and a good amount…

It’s totally possible but it involves a fairly substantial commitment to difficult acts of relationship building and significant time and resource dedication over a number of years that most people aren’t willing to make. (Hence, most people really shouldn’t do it). Big emotional maturity is needed and a good amount…

Implanted artists are the first wave of gentrification, it’s proven true in city after city after city. They don’t have to be wealthy, they don’t have to even want to be a part of rising land/housing prices. But intentions are not the same as effects and you don’t get to plead ignorance and go back to painting because…

I’m so impressed by the writer for speaking up clearly and forcefully in the moment - something I failed to do on my own behalf and always wished I had. And kudos to the elder house dudes for drawing clear unequivocal lines about the community’s values. I hope you have found healing, and that this exercise brought you…

Join a union (whatever your industry)! We take workplace harassment seriously in mine and our stewards help employees defend themselves. And unlike HR your union isn’t worried about protecting the company too- just you.

In the event she meant “gain 10 lbs of fat” I still want to defend her. She’s a pop star making a music video that will be consumed by hundreds of thousands, maybe millions of people. It makes sense she would want to take some responsibility for the body images in her work, given the effect it can have on viewers. As…

Wait, what’s the big hole you are seeing (on her side)? This is not obvious at all to me. And what are you trying to insinuate is the real reason she was there? Finally, how the answers to those questions somehow make her partially responsible for what happened escapes me... Come back when you have something sensible…

She is also a polite nature lover! Two months ago I walked past her coming down a hill on a hiking trail in California while on vacation. We stopped for her to pass but she insisted we go ahead since our group was bigger. I know, good story right... but I never see famous people, let alone chill gracious ones.

Sharon may very well have misrepresented Kim by saying K claims to be a feminist. But that aside, I absolutely agree that Kim is in no way about female progress or fighting male supremacy. Peddling objectification and conspicuous luxury consumption to turn being leisure class into a self-perpetuating personal brand is…

Her language was imprecise in the interview, I think she could easily have been citing someone else’s insult that the daughter “was part of a terrorist group BLM” and the mother is clarifying that she was not a formal member of a particular group. So her daughters accusers would be the ones calling BLM a terrorist…

Did not realize Missy Elliot was sampling a song (this one!) on Gossip Folks

My fav line “I’m not going to deny who I am” - who is asking you to? about what? how? what does he even MEAN?!

Is the Cardi B Bodak Yellow video cultural appropriation? Sincere question

Or did he intentionally get more batshit in his apology so that he could plausibly claim temporary insanity to get out of legal damages? “I was off my meds, clearly..”

“The Koch Brothers” is how I am going to refer to Gal’s nipples in this promotional picture from now on. I mean COME ON - whether it’s photoshop or actual costume design, the nip emphasis is just silly.

I love Jlaw, I love Javier, I even date a man 16 years older than myself. Am I still allowed to be annoyed at the romantic age gap this movie?