This ruined my day.

Right?

Huh. I am a humanist and a feminist.

The problem is that the definition you just posted there isn’t what she meant. Humanism has zero to do with equal gender rights. Feminism promotes the nice easy balance she spoke of. She meant feminism, but she was afraid to say it.

There’s nothing wrong with being a humanist, but saying you are in response to a question of whether you’re a feminist implies that humanism is an alternative belief system about equality of the sexes, when it has nothing to do with gender.

It disappears sexism (real sexism; not “misandry”) as an axis of oppression.

From Wiki : Humanism is a philosophical and ethical stance that emphasizes the value and agency of human beings, individually and collectively, and generally prefers critical thinking and evidence (rationalism, empiricism) over established doctrine or faith (fideism).