update— on the comment thread following the above cited Roast Buster's post, Roast Buster posted the following comment:

your name resembles, and should be "99bummers" — based on your comments here and on other stories today.

EXACTLY.

They sound like they deserve each other. Lord, I sound like my mother.

what's up with the awful thumbnail?

I live in Gainesville, FL. Home of the Florida Gators. At one of the most popular student bars in midtown, there's a bar, Salty Dog. I realized a few weeks ago that FOR SALE in the bar is a shirt that features a Gator (literally, an Alligator) having sex with a highly sexualized "Seminole Indian princess" from behind.…

lol. but sincerely hope feminists don't start using "negging" to describe being called out for something sincerely problematic (racist/sexist/violent). God help us all.

wow. that is super violent and not okay. imagine if someone had posted that about a female in an outfit s/he didn't like?

So. I am NOT okay with Paula Deen's racism. But the things quoted above, are not racist? They are actually kind of funny. Imagine your own grandmother dropping the m-f bomb?

but didn't you guys know that watching women fall apart and making fun of it, and posting about whether we think stars' fashion choices are "good for their body" or not is a feminist practice?! ;)

gross.

Fair, but I don't see this person redacting the statement (if I am wrong about that, wonderful! It would make me feel much better about the world). To me this is like someone blogging on a racial equality site and accidentally...saying something very racist without acknowledging or addressing it. I am honestly shocked…

sounds like hateful, classist crap.

why is this the image? do they consent? also— praying is okay. I'm a praying, sex ed loving, feminist?

the "I am getting this on camera" smirk.

I see both connotations— but that's a piece of shit thing to say about the vagina. and totally inaccurate. She should never be allowed to write for a feminist blog again.

"Just because you have a vagina doesn’t mean you need to act like one." This line has NO business on Jezebel whatsoever. It's afeminist bullshit. You should frankly be ashamed of yourself. Stereotypes about vaginas being "passive" have been very dangerous for women and are often heteronormative. Gross.

hey. eyes up here.

hey. eyes up here.

I agree this advice was problematic. For many reasons. Also are most of these comments. Sex should be fair, open, consensual...but to say it should be a tit-for-tat exchange? it's a transgressive practice. not being tit-for-tat is kind ok, as long as all are satisfied. In terms of this relationship, though? If I were…