Oh man. This is the theme for the ages. I can’t post any of these without doxxing myself but I don’t care. Background: I work for the government. Where everyone is either brilliant but just wants to be comfortable or dumb as rocks and can’t get anything better. Generally when you leave, you either blossom and live…

Thank you all so much for your kind words and thoughts. I’ve been quiet about Nick’s passing for a lot of reasons. There’s still a lot of stigma around overdosing and mental illness, and I’m working through it.

My spouse and I separated and officially broke about 2 and a half weeks ago, 2 days after our 4th anniversary. At the end, it was toxic and miserable, and I was the only one who honestly wanted it to work. I lost most of my friends in the process. Half the people in my family who haven’t passed on already (I lost my…

I’m so sorry. My daughter would be 14 now. When she died my (now ex) wife was teaching middle school and when she went back to work one of her students said “I heard your baby died. That sucks.” All of the adults that were in the room at the time fell all over themselves ushering him out of the room and apologizing,…

Shelter Catstravaganza!

Hola from Panama! This weather is absolutely incredible, seventy to seventy five degrees every day, and now in dry season, all day sun and breezy. It’s awfully nice near the equator. Speaking of living near the equator as an expat retirees, my parents sent me the usual mean-spirited birthday gift: a high necked, long…

Very hard day today.

Ugh, this one’s all too easy: Election Hell Week.

It’s amazing how quickly people get the memo when you really hit “enough.”

My 1st Mr. Slap was funny, kind, deeply connected to a universal spiritual sensibility and looked like Patrick Swayze with intense blue eyes. Eric woke up 12/26/99 with a grand mal seizure while we foolishly stayed at his parents house when we traveled home to Ohio for Xmas. Before Christmas, we  had to watch QVC…

My most epic and disproportionate meltdown was shortly after my ex fiancé dumped me and I was in the process of trying to build my life again from the ground up, both materially and emotionally. I’d just moved into my new place, as in literally two days before, so was still doing everything and getting everything…

I dated a guy who was polyamorous in a shitty unethical way and whenever I recognized that he was treating me disrespectfully he would lecture me for not being as “evolved” as he was and that I should read The Ethical Slut in order to be more informed about how our relationship should work. It all came to a climax one…

I lost it at work on two guys who were being super shitty. I’m going to be light on details to keep this relatively short.

I want to note that I am generally a very chill person. The results of a chaotic childhood. Said chaotic childhood was also somewhat emotionally and psychologically abusive. Not to the point of “very, very bad” but it remained steadily on “unhappy” for my entire life, until I was finally able to put some distance…

I was bullied a lot in school, and my parents and the school were zero help.

Ten years ago, I decided to go back to college to get my associate’s degree that I didn’t get ten years before because I had a kid instead. (Long story.) I majored in Business Administration, and was doing well until I came up against the beast known as Managerial Accounting.

For me, the losing my shit stage came after the breakup, and immediately after the divorce. My mom had driven me to the courthouse, and she sat in the back of the courtroom while the proceedings happened. My ex, which to be fair, was a pretty nice guy in spite of us getting divorced (incompatability, nothing else),…

Back in the days before Uber...hell, back in the days before everyone moved to Brooklyn, it could be a challenge to get a taxi to take you from Manhattan to the outer boroughs. Cabbies would ask you where you were going before you even got in the car, and if you said Brooklyn, they might just peel out into traffic to…

I work security, and normally am pretty chill (literally - if it’s not on fire or arterial bleeding, there’s no need to panic). This happened in our local mall. We had a medical event in a second floor store, patient dropped unconscious, not breathing. Our main elevators were broken, so we brought the paramedics in…

Was it a break up?