Truly sorry for your loss. I, too recently lost someone to suicide/ drug abuse, and I have found many Jezzies share our sad feelings of loss. You are not alone.

When young people excel, my heart bursts.

Thank you. I have a straight-up, round belly. Apple-shaped ladies, represent! This is why many 'plus sized' clothes don't look nice on me. I'm not tall, busty or flat-tummied.

Um, where's the cheesecake? Am I late to this point?

Aaaaah. I'm in Delaware, so the SanFran-neighborhood thing was totally lost on me. Commenters make the good point that the gender of who is writing and the gender of who is being written about doesn't really matter. I was just wondering how many fellow readers caught themselves, too, and were willing to admit it or…

Agreed, it does not matter. I just admit catching myself assigning gender to who feels pain and how they express it. Sort of public flogging... :-/

Isn't a Fleshjack for men? This was written by a man. I am publicly scolding myself for immediately assuming 'lying cheater' meant this was a woman writing about some dude. Reverse misogyny on my part? Telling on myself and my insanely awful track record with dishonest, male partners? Am I the only one?

My sister's boyfriend of three years committed suicide days before Christmas last year. Observing this similar situation is almost unbearable. Thank you both for sharing. I have found many Jezzies share this heartbreaking, confusing experience. We may not know each other, personally, but you are all in my heart.

Wooow. I am so sorry to hear that. Condolences.

Whoops, responded in the wrong place.

As I've said to other responders, if my tone is off-putting, I was simply honestly expressing my perception from my perspective. *shrug* So, for that reason, I accept your sanctimonious tone in return. It totally was not my intention to offend, so I apologize for that. My bad. Yours and other points in response to…

No, actually, I'm someone who doesn't obsess over what other people eat at all, and actually excluded flesh of all types from my diet for a long span of years, years ago. But because someone close to me is a veggie, we often talk about the many ways society deals with people who do things differently than others, in…

Oooo, again a very good point. I will say that my BFF said people are so taken aback by her decision when it does come out in whatever way. I have witnessed it and I guess I didn't think about how much eating we all do around people who don't really know us...thus the judgery. I am eased by your and EveHolt's…

Point well taken, for sure. I should have said, 'some vegetarians.' Sorry for the generalizations. I didn't mean to offend.

Why does vegetarianism come off as so pretentious? Why do vegetarians seem to enjoy coming off as pretentious? Are vegetarians, somehow, people more naturally predisposed to enjoy thinking they are better than other people? Are vegetarian kids somehow being taught to feel better than other people? These are all…

In italics, you or someone, broke down what type-2 diabetes is, in a way that a regular person could understand. If only my doctor or diabetes support group or anyone else could figure out how to explain it this way to the masses. Once you 'get it,' its like, "*shrug* No big deal, I'll skip a few of the…

Oprah + LiLo in 'reality' docudrama and 'Life Class Coaching' on Oprah's network regarding LiLo's complex personal and public problems = Why I hate popular culture.

You are exactly on point. And, until a person has been in the inner circle with an addict, it's impossible for them to understand how complex the situations can be. My sister's boyfriend of three years committed suicide around Christmas of last year after exhausting himself trying to get clean and sober. His…

Thank you and I send my heartfelt condolences to you as well. The more I learn, the more I realize that, without having a front row seat, it's impossible to know how addiction's ripple effects splay.

I NEEDED this after the weekend I/we just had. Every part of this is beautiful and full of what makes me smile in life - namely: kitteh, creativity and music. Thank you :-)