He’s putting you in the role of a parent and that’s really not ok. Is it just this issue or do you have to remind him to adult in other ways too? I was with a guy like that. I was the nagging shew who wanted a budget, living within our means, planning purchases, setting goals, saving money, having a retirement plan,…

His inaction and lack of contribution has made her a parent and not a partner. There are things that need to be done and he’s not making effort to show that he’s prioritizing them. That seemed pretty obvious in the letter. We all slack off every now and then, but if she is always being put in the position of having to…

We have due process. OK, we’re suppose to. You don’t have to admit anything. What really baffles me are people who think that anyone claiming authority, from receipt checkers to the cop who pulls you over, should automatically be obeyed no matter what.

One of the 8 (or so) approved haircuts.

Wow, you have no joy or humor in your life.

Yes, cause what you suggest is sacrilege. It’s anathema. It’s the harbinger of doom. Put ketchup on the fries and/or go without!? Are you mad!!!???

I would tell my ex-husband he was being ‘deliberately obtuse’...and I’d have to explain that phase every time. :/

You’ve crossed over into the Twilight Zone (the Wordplay episode specifically). That’s the best explanation I have.

Nope...nope, nope, nope, nope! Ketchup does not go on the fries until I drag my fries through it.

Is there a word for when you’re trying to communicate with someone, you’re both speaking the same language, but the other person responds as if they’ve suddenly become aphasic (or you start to wonder if you have)? Something besides “miscommunication” because that does not convey the surreal quality of the experience.…

No, I’m not saying it’s in the best interest of men to father lots of children with lots of different women. You do realize the sex ratio is about 1:1, right? Maybe a few can use that strategy, but to use that to jusify sexism, that all men must spread their seed, is bizarre. And again, you’re still ignoring female…

You’re also forgetting female choice.

And you’re leaving out quality vs. quantity tradeoffs. Slow maturity rate for human children. Need to provision said children so they actually live to reproduce (that’s nearly a 2 decade commitment). It’s not all about spreading your seed.

Like N.O.W.!?

Well, if I’m angry it must be your fault! If you keep making me angry I’m not responsible for the consequences, you are!

It’s funny how any appearance that women are treating men like men often treat women (how men talk about women’s bodies, scrutinize their appearance, rate them, etc) and the menz get all up in arms.

And you live your life doing what’s best for the planet? Why are you on a computer using electricity?

I use to find my exhusband very attractive. But I’ve see the putrid ugliness underneath. Looks are mostly superficial. Being compatible, actually being friends, having someone who’s genuinely supportive is worth a million times the outer package.

You don’t think a severe physical illness can also come with depression and anxiety?

It’s not a competition. Both of the people in your examples can have depression over what life has thrown at them. People can be also depressed while things are seemingly OK with their live (no major traumas, no terminal illness, severe sexual disfunction; things are fairly stable). Again, not a competition.