My husband jokes how he hates when people at work would say, “Being a mom” or “Doing things with my kids” when asked what their hobbies were. I have to admit, I stay away from those folk too.

... the research does not indicate the amount of alcohol supplied by parents, or the context in which it is given. (Was it a flute of champagne to celebrate Mom’s promotion or was it five Jägerbombs?...)

Listen to how he talks about the women in his life. That’s how he’ll talk about you after the initial rush wears off.

I dunno, but between this jamoke and Stephen Miller, I feel great about how I look at 37. Not to mention the fact that I feel great about myself because I’m not a horrible person.

That’s a damn ugly handbag.

anecdote from personal experience: I can tell you, when your partner starts dropping hints about how “monogamy isn’t the only way for a relationship to be” and “maybe we’d be happier if we were more open” etc. etc., it is mostly just laying the groundwork to justify having feelings (physical or emotional, whichever)…

I had an ex that purposed opening up our relationship a few times. He did not have a side piece or anyone in particular in mind. He just refused to believe he contributed to the problems in our sex life in any way and didn’t think he had to do any work to fix them.

“As a guilty man I knew the only way to hide was to act as though I were righteous.”

Yeah, the amount of people defending him and berating the wife for speaking out was... yyeaauggghhh.

Not even just a cheater. I don’t ask for absolute moral perfection from anyone, feminist or otherwise, but he’s a serial cheater who essentially blamed the women he cheated with. And there were still women lining up to defend him. I don’t get it.

I thin it depends on who you ask...there are a lot of people - a lot of women and feminists - who have argued for a while now that he isn’t as feminist as he likes to pretend to be, or as we may want him to be. But there are still those who will point to Buffy as if it set the standard for feminist TV shows. It didn’t.

As someone who knows the absolute devastation and trauma being cheated on (by the last person you would think) I absolutely understand why Kai did what she did.

As someone who’s in treatment for PTSD for similar reasons (years of cheating and gaslighting and manipulation to cover it up)...not all cheating is abuse, but cheating can CERTAINLY be abusive. Especially when combined with years of lying and patterns of repeated behavior.

How about you back off from his ex-wife whom he cheated on for fifteen years? Then, attempted to justify himself the usual line of “I faced so much temptation, anyone would’ve done it.” This man gaslit her, and used her as a cover for his cheating. She says as much. I’m inclined to take her word for it. As a director,…

This echoes some of what others have said, but there can be some serious misogyny involved when a straight, cis guy cheats, especially when it is done in the ways Joss apparently did it. And I say all of this as someone who has both been cheated on and been the other woman (something that I consider to be the worst…

Yes, but Joss Whedon blamed his cheating not on himself but on the “beautiful, needy, aggressive young women” whom he was in a position of power over in his cheating and not himself. Then, he gaslit his wife for fifteen years and lied to her. Then, asked her to carry the burden with him. He was not powerless or a…

Nobody who watched Dollhouse with a critical eye could possibly walk away from that thinking Whedon was the Feminist Hero of our Age. Let’s start with massive doses of what is effectively rape and go from there.

The exerted quotes hint at it, but Kai’s whole post makes it clear: WHEDON GASLIT HER FOR YEARS. He made her doubt her own reality. Yeah, someone can fuck up and still be a feminist. But to consistently and determinedly tell a woman — one who you purportedly care about — that she is wrong in her experience and…

Is not deceiving your spouse for over a decade and using them as a shield really an impossible standard? Lots of people cheat. Not all of them live a double life, deceive their spouse for years, and deprive them of their right and ability to make a fully informed decision about who they are sharing their life and…

You know when you see a person and you just get an uncomfortable feeling about them? Like something is just off but after talking to them or (in this case) reading/watching interviews you can’t put your finger on it? That’s how I’ve always felt about Whedon. Glad to know I wasn’t wrong.