That was amazing. He’s claimed repeatedly that his relationship with Soon-Yi couldn’t be abuse because he ignored her completely when she “just” one of Mia Farrow’s kids, going so far as to say he had never so much as had a conversation with her before they became romantically involved.

And he seems a little confused about who exactly changed her life by adopting her from Korea.

Because positive reinforcement is proven to work better than negative reinforcement 100% of the time.

I can’t deal with people who live in a head space where someone is trying really hard but fail to meet perfection, and the appropriate response is to chastise them for not meeting that perfection, because “giving…

Even though I am on the lady-side of this equation, this still chuffs me a bit: that we want allies, but we expect them to “not take things personally” when we direct very personal criticism at them.

This is the 3rd or 4th time I’ve seen a piece like this from Jia on Matt’s feminism and “wokeness”, and it’s always the…

I hate to think that people being too-enthusiastic about supporting equal rights is a bad characteristic. Hahaha.

Yeah - I think he’s paving the way for other cis white dudes (like myself) who want to do some good from their place of privilege, but also are hesitant to say anything, at risk of fucking up. I think you’ve gotta risk fucking up to do some good, though - then when you do, you listen, learn from that, and try to do…

You know, if we keep snarking and tearing down and pushing away people who are allies, WE ARE GOING TO RUN OUT OF THEM.

So men are poor feminists if they don’t talk about feminism, and are also poor feminists if they do?

You know, I really like your writing. Have since The Awl. Think you are extremely perceptive and talented and a lot of your pieces offer a lot. But I have noticed this thread recently of pieces policing the boundaries of right-thinking right thinking. The Macklemore beat, sorta. And I do understand the impulse but at…

I didn’t say that, and I didn’t say his activism is perfect, and I didn’t say that an ulterior motive was impossible? You’re reading a lot of combative shit into my one-line comment that just isn’t there. It just seems like you’re really itching to start a fight with whoever you can. And hey, good luck with that. I’m…

Okay, I just ate lunch and wanted to return to this comment only because my other one is idiotic.

So now we are cutting down our allies for being “suspiciously woke”?

Exactly.He has every right to feel frustrated or hurt when people slam him for something, he’s human and not a robot and obviously a good person. But he doesn’t use that shit as an excuse not to keep fighting. He takes it and moves on and tries to do better. Which is good.

I think...we all just need to take a little…

Should probably rehydrate.

Good for him. It sucks because it’s like “Thanks cis white guy for drawing attention to inclusive feminism” but I love that he knows that and thinks its BS that he’s getting all the pats on the back for it when women from all walks of life have been saying this for awhile now and just getting crickets. So he’s dammed…

Yeah, and not just backpain, but having huge boobs while growing affects your spine. Mine is crooked in my neck. Sort of a permanent mini hunch. And other fun stuff like muscle tension headaches because my back and shoulders are permanently tensed to hold the weight. It’s fun all around. I have nothing but respect for…

Oh fuck this woman. Breast reduction is fucking surgery, it’s not easy or fun, and no one does it lightly. And 18 is a perfectly acceptable age to do it, it’s when I had mine and because of my youth, my recovery was incredibly quick.

As someone who has had this surgery, I’d also like to note that society doesn’t give…

“I have been physically abused, and I believe all of this is emotional abuse. Ariel should ask herself, ‘has Ariel ever raised a hand to her mother? Has Ariel ever done anything she’s ashamed of to her mother?’”

What??? Carbonara is amazing. So eggy, bacony, creamy, definitely indulgent. God I love that stuff. #teamcarbonara