Right. And I just want to mention that this particular song has made my BLACK students feel like they can approach me and inquire. And my few white students, who often feel very put upon, have an inroad into understanding that even though they are “the minority” in their individual situation at school, they are by no…

“I wrote myself in, since I’m me and I’m here and I’m writing.”

Yeah, that phrase is definitely going into my standard rotation.

Nope! Not stereotypes. Actual observed (and extensively studied) patterns of behavior. Men are socialized to believe that they are entitled to take up space. Women are socialized to believe that they need to take up as little space as possible. Calling this double standard out has literally nothing to do with guys who…

So while I disagree with many of your statements for reasons many have expressed, I do hear that being a man trying to engage with feminism feels isolating. And I think you and other men are both the cause of and the solution to this issue. Why don’t you talk about feminism in men’s spaces? Because you don’t like the…

You are incorrect about whether these are gendered. Obviously they are not inherent, but the behaviors themselves are distinctly linked to gender in our society and your denial about that is frankly puzzling. (And, you call yourself a feminist, right? And you’re a guy, right? Expert male feminist tip: when women tell…

Hello fellow UK feminist

Except that the fact that they are gendered is the whole point. It’s the same reason why “ALL lives matter” is a shitty, derailing answer to “black lives matter.” No one is suggesting they don’t, just like no one is suggesting that condescension from anyone towards anyone is fine and dandy. What they are saying is…

Then do the thing you think should happen. You want young men to be supported more in their burgeoning feminism. Then do that yourself. Why you coming here and telling us we should be doing more work than we’re already doing on top of the fact that we’ve already got the short end of the stick in our patriarchal…

*snort*

i think it’s really hard to see yourself as “the default.” when these guys see woman-specific support groups or black-specific support groups or black-woman-specific support groups they don’t see minority groups being given a voice, they see themselves being specifically excluded. they don’t see how they are the…

You don’t define my manhood, asshole

hey think feminism is good for everybody and they want to be nice to women. Life in femfog is the price a man pays for women’s acceptance and approval. These are goals many straight men desire, even crave, because men want to have sex and they know that adored women are more likely to grant sexual favors. I suggest be…

To be fair, I am far more likely to sleep with someone who thinks I should receive equal pay for equal work, that I should be able to make decisions about my body (particularly in the aftermath of sex), and who won’t snottily call me a slut after I’ve fucked them.

That passage is one of those things that says far more about the author than about his purported subject. You just know his relationships with women throughout his life had to be seriously dysfunctional, most likely because he’s just a self-obsessed jerk.

There are several of these dinosaurs in my department. I bet they’d be members of the “manosphere” if they had a better grasp of how the internet works. Instead they do their harassing in person, complaining about maternity leave, waxing nostalgic for what the department used to be like (before 2011 the department was…

I’m always baffled how MRAs view sex as something women control for nefarious purposes, like it’s a physical shiny toy we’re holding just out of their reach. We aren’t hiding something that rightfully belongs to humanity in general; we simply want to control our own bodies.

I love it when people act like treating each other like human beings is some huge inconvenience that requires a ton of their effort to comply to. Certainly there are issues that require a little knowledge and nuance, but 99% is just "treat other people as human beings." I think it says a lot about these people that…

I refer to men who are shrouded in this fog as FUMs, fogged up men; other terms come to mind. They may might not be feminists but as they wander through the mist of politics and polemic about women, they feel like they should be feminists. They think feminism is good for everybody and they want to be nice to women.…