ACA is the law, and the president can’t unilaterally violate the law. This move shouldn’t stand up in court any more than his travel ban did.

By the same illogical logic, vanilla sex is wrong too. I didn’t bother to look it up, but I’m certain there’s data out there proving vanilla sex partners also physically abuse their partners.

No, but any therapist worth their salt should follow a harm reduction model when working with issues of self-harm, addiction, disordered eating, etc. Telling someone “no, that’s bad, stop” doesn’t do any good.

I’ve noticed this too (in what my lovers have told me.) For me I’m a switch and I think it’s important that anyone who gets into the dom role also spend some time as a sub so they understand boundaries better. For me I don’t do the rough stuff because it turns me on (because, face it, anything with a lover I like is…

there’s a difference between “my kink is not your kink” and “you are a dysfunctional person for wanting to be restrained/have your hair pulled/having fantasies and you need to be fixed”

This is a troll.

The irony is that the troll is now using drag queen slang to further harass other posters, similar to behavior exhibited in late September when that troll fell to the exact same language but more sexually harassing messages against another commenter, just because that person asked for links to back up the trolls…

Stop posting on the internet and go meet people.

spoilers: lawyers, teachers, doctors, celebrities....hell, just about EVERY profession has workers that are into bondage and other wild shit. Maybe they’re more normal than you ;)

I feel you. It’s ok if you yell right now cuz there is some serious sex-shaming on this thread & you’ve said everything I would, and better than I would.

Thanks :)

So people who ride roller coasters, watch horror movies, or eat hot sauce need therapy? GTFO.

Save your typing, they made up their mind and want to tell everyone else what to think now.

You are misreading the statistics. 1 in 3 have had their consent violated, not 1 in 3 have violated. That’s like how the rate of experiencing sexual assault is between 1 in 3 to 1 in 6 (depending on which study and how they define sexual assault) of women but the rate of sexually assaulting is about 4-6% of men.

This one, brighter. The BDSM community numbers in the millions in the US alone, and that survey was from multiple countries.

Can you not use the word perpetrator to describe people who self harm (outside of bdsm)? It’s a very rude/stigmatizing way to describe people like me who have self harmed and are usually doing so as a coping mechanism to deal with untreated/unresolved mental health issues or illnesses. Also most people who I know who…

I see sex as fun. Many people have reasons why. Some people might like being dominated because it frees them from deep-conditioned negative emotional blocks to sexual, pleasure.

Are you serious? Rough sex is totally a thing people are into and it’s completely acceptable. It isn’t self harm it comes from a different place.

The fact that you compare self harming to liking rough and or kinky sex says it all.