Unpopular confession: I have said no when what I meant was, “I’m going to pretend I don’t want to have sex right away because I don’t want you to think I’m a slut but I definitely want to have sex.”

I deeply resent the argument that asks why a woman doesn’t leave a situation like this is victim blaming. This was not a case where she was threatened or intimidated. It was an evening where she felt uncomfortable with the sexual activity she was actively participating in, and did not stand up for herself and say no…

It’s really not that hard. If you have to persuade/cajole/“soften up” someone, don’t do it. If you’re not getting clear, enthusiastic consent, don’t do it. You might get laid less, but the alternative is much worse.

My takeaway? Old time views on courtship and pursuit cannot co-exist with modern feminism. Do away with “non-verbal cues.” Millennial women cannot harp on affirmative consent and then say “But I gave you non-verbal cues.” Can’t have it both ways.

Seriously, the idea that every women’s website needs to have a scorching hot take about every single sexual assault story is exhausting. If people want bad takes, the surest way to get there is to get everyone to publish opinions they don’t want to.

I’m over 35 and had a nearly identical incident happen to me. I walked away from it frustrated and pissed off (due probably to my age and my immediate recognition of what was happening). That doesn’t mean that what happened to Grace is invalid- it means we reacted differently and equally acceptably. It has literally…

Actually asking Ansari for his recollections of the night and contrasting them would have immediately made the story more interresting and killed the shady, I Never Thought It Would Happen To Me feel.

You’re right. I’m an idiot. I’m an assault survivor (stranger rape) and a moron. This story minimizes real assault. I’ve also fought a guy off with a broken bottle who was restraining me (on a separate occasion) and attempting to get me to suck him off. Guess I’m just sheltered like that.

Did they, or did they not accept the terms of service?

I packed a brand-new shower curtain in my suitcase when I moved.

After I moved out of my exes place, I went kind of crazy buying whatever weird “decorations” I wanted. I now have a very large light up sign that says “REPENT.”

DO NOT BUY a sleeper sofa. My brother and I both did, and dealing with them when we moved was so much trouble. If you’re constantly having people sleep over, get an inflatable mattress (one that the guest has to blow up themselves, keeps them from coming back :P )

I’ve always felt that bread, cheese, meat, coffee and wine and THE things you do not skimp on.

The notched want to be notchless and the notchless want the notch.

Considering you made a burner account “ExLifehackerLover” just to write this, I’m guessing it’s just a troll post.

A couple of interesting facts about Black owned businesses for the haters:

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