Yep, my ex demonises me, refuses to speak to me directly about the kids, and generally blames all his woes on me, five years after we split. It isn’t easy for the kids because it makes all family stuff a pain in the ass. Actually, all life stuff, because their dad won’t talk to me and if I come up he gets pissy. I…

Yeah, I couldn’t fucking believe it. I kept my cool but I told him he could not disrespect her like that, that she not only gave birth to his five children but raised them to adulthood over almost 30 years of her life, etc. He backed off immediately.

I’m 52 and I’ve never bought a car. In high school, college, and after my mom gave me her hand me down cars when she bought new ones. Then I met Hub at age 33, and after that he bought all the cars.

Honestly, this is one experience I do not regret having missed.

It’s like a mold they are all formed from. Escape, leave, run away from problems, etc.

Your mom sounds like a fun-having saint, you sound pretty well adjusted, and your dad sounds like he got what he deserved. My father left my mom and three little kids for a slightly younger woman (who left her kids behind too) and decided he’d never wanted to be a dad in the first place. He now has grandchildren he’s…

I think women are incredibly resilient and your mother sounds amazing. Being betrayed like that is painful and gut wrenching. I saw what my mother went through. She lost so much weight, weight she couldn’t afford to lose. She ended up in the hospital. Her mental state was terrible and I honestly thought she was going…

Truly. She was a catch too, a gorgeous woman who barely aged. Too bad I’m adopted. She had men begging to date her, at 66. Two proposed to her and she said she wanted to be single.

Good lord, are we related? It’s amazing how similar our parents’ experiences were.

Good for your mother. It isn’t surprising at all though that your father has to continue demonizing your mother. It’s actually pretty typical for cheaters. It’s called blame shifting. Instead of owning their actions, they have to tell themselves that the evil spouse made them do it. Then they come up with all the…

Yes, I suppose you are right. I just would have thought after 25 years he would have gotten past feeling guilty, especially since his second marriage was supposedly so blissful. As dickish as he was, my mom eventually put it all behind her, and I think she ended up actually being happier divorced than she might have…

Lot’s of cheaters have to demonize the betrayed as a way to shift blame from themselves. Think about it, if that person is so horrible, so terrible, so awful, then they are deserving of being left. It’s easier to blame the ex-spouse than to look in the mirror and see a person who cheated, lost their integrity and blew…

What Kelsey Grammer is doing reminds me a little of what my dad did after my parents split up.

When I was 34 I took both of my parents with me to buy a new car. I knew everyone thought they were bankrolling me. They weren’t. I’m financially solvent, just emotionally bankrupt.

A friend was once involved in a legal dispute with him. Friend eventually won (Kelsey caved because he would have so lost in court) but I did learn along the way that Kelsey is made entirely of dog poo.

I’m 31 and still feel like I need my parent’s permission to make large purchases.

This is every man I’ve ever dated (and most have subsequently left me because I wasn’t “broken” enough which...I’m pretty busted, so....). I think he left out the “young” before women and the qualifier that “fixing” the broken not require anything from him other than his wallet and his dick.

I can’t laugh at Tori Spelling; I no longer remember the details about her feud with Candy Spelling but credit card debt is agonising, and with three children, I can imagine that it adds up pretty fast. More to the point, to be disinherited or pushed out of a 600 million dollar inheritance would be painful on so many…

I kinda get what Katie is saying. I am early 40s, and I still wonder when the adults are going to show up and help me out with life stuff.

This is gross. And exactly what I imagined he’d be like in real life.

from his autobiography