Seriously, if your going to a church then you are probably already either 1) At the lower end of the IQ spectrum in the U.S. or 2) Old and about to die.

You can kindly go stfu

And yet... people crave community and church can bring that - it’s abundantly clear that this is what the writer was looking for. It isn’t all “where am I going to go when I’m dead” and “how do I personally bring the second coming of Christ and impose my morals on others.” It’s history, cultural experience, community…

I’ve quickly learned (from Captain Awkward: go there right now if you’ve never been, I have grown so much as a person and a “bitch) that having a “script” of responses takes a lot of the pressure off. Next time potential FIL says something racist, look him in the eye, let the silence become just a bit uncomfortable,…

Holy shit...did I just read ~good~ advice in this column this week? Weird!

As a 12 stepper myself in one of the S programs, Jane’s advice is right on. There’s a reason they tell you to work the steps in order, you’re not really going to know how to do step 9 without doing 1-8 first. Have faith that the “higher power” aspect will reveal the right thing to do in the course of your step work.

One thing it took me a long time to learn in my 20s was that I don’t even actually WANT to be friends with a lot of people I used to know. They’re fine people, but their lifestyles diverged from mine and it turns out that simply living down the hall from someone for a year in college isn’t enough to sustain a…

And this right here is EXACTLY why so many allies and potential allies have just given up amd stay silent. It’s not about receiving constructive criticism, it’s when every little step is met with outright hostility.

Not surprising to me. John Oliver did a story on Last Week Tonight about how New York City has the most segregated schools.

100% is taught.

So... She shouldn’t try to be better, do better, know better? Ok.

Your kids are freakin’ adorable and I’m glad that you found a welcoming church, AND I’m sorry that your former church comrades were garbage people.

I just learned (at 51) that if someone brings you something in a dish, you’re supposed to return the dish filled with something homemade. Who knew?

That show is such a goldmine of weird facts about them and their funky friendship. Like how Martha Stewart was struck by lightening twice in the same day, and how Snoop was apparently a calculus brainiac in high school.

It IS! Isn’t it the sweetest?

I like to think they are just best buds. Plus, he’s still with his high school sweet heart as far as I know.

Fuck this. I’ll ship Martha and Snoop Dogg/Lion until the day I die.

He’s the blandest bland that ever blanded.

Just as a trival side note, Beth Stern is Howard Stern’s wife. Less trivial, she is very involved in animal rescue causes. Yay, Beth!