I get this too... For a second I feel a bit left out then I think of all the rad things I'm doing in life (grad school in London, amazingly cute cavalier King Charles spaniel, traveling) and realize I wouldn't be able do such cool things if I was married and having babies. So, think of really great things going on in…

I know that feeling. I have a ph.d. and my life feels ridiculous and empty. Like i sacrificed too much for that stupid degree.

I know this feeling well.

Lindy's article earlier in the week about the girl from the daily beast who was complaining about thin shaming brought up some old memories for me and I ended up writing a post, which ended up being pretty long and cathartic, as a response. However, because of being at the other side of the Atlantic I was late to the…

It'd be terrible if we thought of the issue as involving real people with real lives and real children.

Exactly. I live in Somerville, so we were one of the only communities NOT on the list. But we stayed inside, we watched the news, we talked to family. Staying inside was literally the least we could do to help, and I'm glad we did. I haven't talked to anyone here who has anything negative to say about it.

Also, I believe he'd been exiled to a hot, thorny, remote island in Greece (Patmos) and was sleeping with his head in a cave. The hallucinatory vibe of the Book of Revelation made a lot more sense to me after I visited Patmos.

Cantabridgian here, who lives about 4 blocks from the Tsarnaev's house. Comments like Orson Scott Card's infuriate me — we woke up that Friday morning to dozens of sirens and helicopters. No businesses were open, the T and bus were closed, and they were reporting controlled demolitions of materials found at the…

Another Bostonian here to back you up. I was more than happy to stay indoors and I don't know anyone here who had a problem with it. The opposite even - when they came on TV with that press conference to say essentially "well we don't know where the fuck he's at but feel free to wander around the city again" me and…

I would like, as another Bostonian, to give a hearty AMEN! to this. A man, who has shown a reckless disregard for human life AT BEST was missing and likely armed in the city. This is exactly the time to clear the fuck out of the way and let the cops do their damn jobs. Friend's of mine had bullet holes in their apt in…

I have a sibling who lives in the "lockdown" his only issue was not hearing about it soon enough to miss work and sleep in. Or smoke up. Or drink beer. Or all three. So, yeah, shut up whack a doodle.

Another Bostonian here, and I wanted to add a "ditto." I have friends who live in Watertown (where Tsarnaev was caught), and they were totally fine with being locked down in their houses while a known bombing lunatic was somewhere in their neighborhood. People in the neighboring towns felt the same way. And this isn't…

As a Northerner, if someone tried to call me "yankee" in a way that was intended to be pejorative, I would just look at them with equal parts amusement and disdain. If I could keep a straight face.

I think that is what often bothers me the most about these articles: that, by virtue of not having children, childfree individuals and couples must then be out cavorting about with all that extra money.Emphasis is so frequently put on the "luxury" things childfree people will splurge on, as though this is something…

this is a huge open secret... many woman and some men regret having kids and can never express it to anyone. They have to always smile and say "having kids was the best thing I could have done; it's the most fulfilling experience." For many people, this is completely untrue. There was a British journalist who wrote…

I'm sorry that you may be having regrets about your choice. One of the reasons that I've chosen to be CF is that my own Mom once said to me "I should have NEVER had kids." Please don't do this to your child, even when you're really worn down/worn out/angry/tired or whatever horrible, awful, temporary feeling. You can…

Isn't that sad? I remember having serious, serious doubts and regrets about continuing my pregnancy (even so far as to get angry with myself and my unborn son), but I couldn't talk to anyone about it. (I still don't. This is me not talking about it. SH. I was never here.) Things like that...you don't say. People…

This is actually the reason I might remain childfree; when my BF and I began discussing the possibility of having children I googled something like 'I hate being a mother' and my eyes were opened to the big public secret that having kids is not the gateway to eternal bliss that it is presumed to be. It made me do a…

I hate this, too. Honestly, out of my siblings, I am the most likely one to care for my parents as they get older. And I want to, after all my parents have done for me. It's probably easier for me to say that, though, considering that there is nothing about a child that appeals to me. I don't want an infant, toddler,…

Well put. The argument that suggests I would change my mind once I had a suckling baby creature is virtually impossible to fight simply because the mere suggestion that there may be mothers in the world who regret having children is evil. Yes, it's possible I would change my mind, but it's also possible I wouldn't and…