I’m so glad you got my reference:)! And this advice is worth repeating ad nauseas: make sure you are ok first!

That’s awful. So sorry to hear. X

I can’t imagine what it is like to go through something like this: I’m a lot younger and chronically single.

A lawyer will be the best placed to advise you on how to move forward. You may be entitled to a lot more! Don’t agree to whatever he suggests because it is hard and overwhelming: you being in a good place in your life will defy help you dealing with this blow and may even be the best for helping him. 

Please consult a good lawyer: yes, it is expensive, and yes, it may feel litigious, but it will put you in a position of safety and peace of mind. This will then enable you to really assess what needs to be done and how to move forward. Best of luck! I’ll try to catch you here again, please keep us posted.

Exactly! It must be heartbreaking to witness this, but he’s being cruel and she will be in a much better position to help him (should she wish so) if the rest of her life isn’t falling apart.

It may be his grief, or the alcohol, or his meds, but you need to protect yourself first (a bit like they say in those inflight safety videos). Get a lawyer, secure your finances and independence, and only then see if / how much you want (and can) help him. I’ve seen too many girlfriends get left high and dry in a…

Anywhere in North / West Europe...

You are already being too nice by going but after this: BLOCK AND DELETE AND PUBLICLY SHAME. Make sure he can’t get a hold of you. 

I’ve been 34DD to 38E and have never been able to buy a bra at VS. Everything else I’ve bought from them has been poor quality and incredibly expensive 

I think they should have ONE housewife that isn’t Mormon and she will be the token drunken shitshow

I’m SO SHOCKED! she’s getting written about in this day and age and in an American blog..

Thank you for taking the time to write this comment. I’m extremely lucky and privileged that I don’t have any experience of what you describe. I’ve learnt a lot.

This is great, Joan!! Thank you!

I’m with him!! Then they get dirty and whoever has to put them in the bin gets that on their hands!

I recently found out that there is a term for this: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/body-focused-repetitive-behaviors. I obsessively pluck stray hairs and have damaged my skin while doing it. 

I eat it while looking at recipes on food blogs - either for the a slightly different version of what I’m having or as “inspiration for my next meal”... I also eat alone A LOT as I work from home...

He seems to be incredibly hardworking and dedicated but I can’t help but find him visually off putting. He’s objectively very handsome but seems... not really human?

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Does anyone have tips on where I can get one of these in Lisbon? And.. where else / what else I should eat in Lisbon?