It’s fucking scary, and because it’s women sounding the alarm, it will be largely ignored.

I keep trying to refine my definition, but what do you think of, “Incels are a group of men dedicated to proving that women are right not to want them.” I was thinking of just “a group of men dedicated to proving women right.” It’s succinct and snappy. People who go to incel discussions will realize what they are…

Also, why is his user name and info scribbled out? People need to know exactly who these hateful, disgusting creeps are. They don’t deserve to be protected, especially when this guy is literally advocating stalking as a “fun” hobby.

Does the incel community exist to “support”, or to undermine its sad adherents? We don’t know a lot about Alek Minassian. We know he was socially awkward; that he was good with computers; that he enlisted with the Canadian Forces but withdrew, having found the rigours of basic training too much for him; we know he…

Because I never miss a chance to quote John Darnielle:

God sometimes I’m like this whole internet thing was a huge fucking mistake.

My daughter is eleven. Right now she’s at a phase in her life where her friend group is equally boys and girls and she cherishes them all. There are hints of little crushes here and there, but mostly, they’re still kids.

How dare she sense his predatory behavior?! He wasn’t going to hurt her this time.

The incel ideology terrifies me. Because I’ve been that lonely guy, who was unable to date, who was a virgin until his 30s. I had terrible self esteem, and it took a lot of therapy and self improvement to get to a better place in my life. And believe me, there are so many people out there like me, who feel lonely and…

The most disturbing thing about that post is that it sounds like it was written by an older guy (at least late teens or older) and not a fellow 14 year old. How is it that a man doesn’t know or care how frightening he might appear to a girl like that?

The right wing liked to call the entire religion of Islam a death cult because of what groups like al Qaeda did to the religion.

Jesus Christ why are these people not being hounded by the FBI like BLM is? They’re fucking terrifying and definitely dangerous.

“But because space is limited, roping off 25% of the seats for disadvantaged kids means that 25% of the current students will be forced to attend a different, likely worse performing school.

I’ve brought this up to other moms and they don’t believe me. I really think it’s true. A lot of teachers/administrators, as well as parents, are appalled that girls now dare to wear short shorts even if they’re not waif thin. It’s appearance policing in addition to the whole ermagod you’ll stimulate the boys thing.

I’ll add that attractive girls probably get a pass more often, as well. When I was in high school the pretty girls wore practically mini skirts and nothing happened, while my fat ass wore a skirt two inches above my knees, and the vice principal felt the need to have a conversation with me.

Nothing has caused more drama (employees’) and rage (mine) than the dress code at my company. It states “visible cleavage” is forbidden, which means that women with bigger boobs pretty much have to wear a turtleneck year-round. I’m always the trouble-making manager who carries the banner for “we who don’t wear an…

I actually believe the real reason is that the adults at the school are deeply uncomfortable seeing the developed bodies of their students. It has nothing to do with the male students, they’re just an excuse. It’s the adult men and women who can’t keep their eyes (and sometimes hands) to themselves and want to blame…

This is a great comment. The school that had an issue with dirty pants was especially out of line. Kids with uniforms only have a certain number of them and not having clean clothes can be a symptom of all kinds of things at home that are not related to respect for being educated or whatever. If a school wants to get…

Being a black girl in the school system (anywhere really) is a double whammy- black and female. But these dress codes are also classsist as hell- if you add low income on top of all that? Forced to wear your sisters old clothes who is shorter than you so maybe the clothes aren’t such a great fit but it’s all you have?…

Final takes: My high school didn’t have a school dress code. My whole class managed to graduate, likely without being too distracted by a classmate’s bare shoulder. Abolish school dress codes TBH.