This is exactly what I’m going through now. Hoping to see the light at the end of the tunnel sooner rather than later because I’m not sure how much more I can take. Hugs.

Having been both super thin and way, way not-thin (as I prefer, “traditionally built”), I will vouch for all the flaws you see even when you have the “right” body. There’s no winning that particular game.

I’m not a comic, but I’m what most people would refer to as an assertive, strong woman with a fierce sense of humor. Part of the reason I stayed with my abuser for so long was that I bought into my own mythos as a “strong woman”, and believed that anything he did that was hurtful wasn’t abuse because I wasn’t capable…

I think it’s really difficult to parse out inner versus outer feelings of attraction. I genuinely think of myself as deeply unattractive (I don’t make jokes, cause I’m not a humorous person, but I do go on long intellectual ramblings about it), even though I am much closer to “conventionally attractive” than some…

Majority of my thin friends are the first to make self-deprecating remarks about themselves. Because they believe it to be true, most times. That’s the saddest part. I can’t fault them for that.

I responded that by that rubric, I was a “body-bagger,” noting, “I’ll probably lose my virginity through a hole in a sleeping bag.” He laughed, and it was like the sun coming out on a planet where it has rained for decades

choosing this career path involves the cultivation of a chitinous exoskeleton, involuntary or not

Women are making the choice, ergo both choices are wrong. Just a life theme I've noticed.

Breastfeeding is such a strange controversial topic. If you don’t breastfeed, you’re the devil. If you don’t breastfeed long enough, you’re the devil. If you breastfeed too long, you’re the devil. Who gives a hoot?! It really grinds my gears when non-factors comment on my breastfeeding practices. Not your titties? NOT…

Simple solution then, don't fucking look.

I know. And I am voting for Sanders in the primary.

My sentiments exactly. 1 year of jail and a $4,000.00 fine if this man if found guilty..... His actions directly led to the death of this woman. Fucking bullshit system.

Depending on the state, failure to use a turn signal may be a misdemeanor, so theoretically, you can get arrested and be forced to pay a bond for it. But, this is a great fucking question. Because even if she was arrested, I’m surprised she wasn’t released on her own recognizance / signature bond.

How can you arrest a person for failing to use a turn signal and jail her for days?

Especially when the rapist was literally the attorney general of the state in question. And this was in the fucking 1970s. The odds of that case being thoroughly investigated and/or successfully proescuted are ZERO.

Same. I’m firmly of the “alleged victims should be believed” camp, at least until actual evidence discredits them. And I’ll admit I don’t know a whole lot about the case other than the stuff you said here. But it seems to me like if there was actual, real evidence that this happened, the right wing would have run with…

Because it’s humiliating. I don’t feel a need to publicly point a finger at my rapist but if he ever was to come into some sort of power or was being deemed a saint, I might start telling my story.

Yeah, why would someone NOT report a rape!

Well it’s not about you and your belief—and I’m not being snarky here—but it’s really about victims having access to resources and a legal system that follows through accusations thoroughly and promptly to bring cases either forward or dismissed (as in your friend’s case). Unfortunately, that doesn’t often happen.

If we assume her account is accurate, my understanding is that it went something like she invited him into her room and felt pressured into “relenting” to his advances despite saying no and never withdrawing that statement. That type of situation would not have lead to a successful prosecution at the time and even…