The biggest irony of it all is that porn searches tend to contradict all these racial undertones.

Good Lord, I've been budgeting for like $8k at most....

My dream wedding food is seafood and BBQ. Everyone will need a wedding bib and moist towelettes.

Same here, loafenstein. My cousin passed away recently. We were close, and I loved him like a sibling. I felt awful… but nary a tear until this: Every single teacher he worked with (he was an elementary school teacher) showed up to the funeral, and they all held hands in solidarity during the entire service. I lost…

Uh, I will include it because my time and labor has an opportunity cost that should be respected. Do you know how long and hard I had to squeeze that charcoal briquette before I had a decent rock?

For me this was a no brainer, there is no way I would spend more than $20,000. On everything. The rings, the venue, the dress, alcohol. And there are lots of people who think that number is outrageous, and I totally understand that. To each their own.

I cry at inspirational video clips and fly into a seething rage when I lose my keys. But big life events? Nothing. Not phased. I go into some kind of robotic emotionless get-shit-done mode. Maybe you're the same?

These same people probably love Utada Hikaru even though she was largely raised in the United States. It all really comes down to her being a "round eye" and having slightly tanned skin.

No, you're crying. Shut up.

Her little pause before saying the word "ugly" killed me. I know she had this awesome retort, but you could tell she thought it was a bad word, and it hurt her a little bit. I'm glad she has an awesome momma who encourages this good self esteem.

On the other hand, her daughter came out without an ounce of that bullshit despite being raised in that environment (I'd imagine this is the sort of thing she heard growing up?).

Tell her they won't end up looking like her so she shouldn't worry about that.

So living through WW2 gives them the right to be racist? I think that might have been part of the problem to start with.

What does an Asian look like?

In Asia's Next Top Model cycle 2, Japan was represented by Marie Nakagawa who also does not look 'traditionally Japanese'.

Ah, I believe that is actually the traditional "laying on of hands." Very good luck, I hear.

Somewhere below "delightful canapés."

We got married in 2011. In May 2009 my husband's 24 year old cousin passed away and his aunt (that deceased cousin's mother) passed away in July 2010. By January 2011 my husband's uncle - who had lost his son and wife in less than two years - was in a very serious relationship with a new woman. We had met her once…

We had a small wedding and didn't have any kind of "coordinator", paid or family because the venue we were at had a staff person on site who was supposed to run interference, keep the food coming, tell the DJ where to set up, etc. We got there a few minutes early (our off-site ceremony was WAY shorter than planned,…

My groom's sister (22 at the time) got into a fistfight with two of my bridemaids (also early 20s). She had pissed them off in the bride room pre-wedding, and after dinner (tons of drinking) they confronted her. She took a swing at them, they fought back. My brother's wife (also my matron of honor) got them apart. …