Talk to your male friends. Make them think about their behaviour. Pay it forward, sort of

Yes, it is always wrong to make the advance after the woman says “no.” If she is operating with the antiquated rulebook of “coyness” in hand, she will learn not to do that, just as men are now learning more and more about consent. Also if a woman likes you and sends the wrong signal, she WILL find a way to correct…

So much of it is about ego. Most men lend WAY too much weight to what we personally want. Our desires and impulses are self-justifying.

Thank you, and everyone who’s written these stories for your ability to put this all on the table. I’m pretty certain all of us men, even the so-called ‘good guy’, have been creeps in the past (At the very least), intentionally or unintentionally. It’s a broken culture. As you illustrated, so many males were raised…

Thank you for sharing your story, as well, it also takes a ton of guts to admit you have been part of the problem. And lets face it, we all have been at one point or another.

I read myself in a lot of this. You did a wonderful job of explaining the mental gymnastics cool girls use to justify things to themselves.

One thing you can do - call it out when you see other guys doing it. It takes so much to go against the grain, but it also takes just one guy speaking up sometimes to diffuse a potentially bad situation.

Thanks for this - I expect writing it was tremendously difficult. But I think it’s important for everyone to look back and examine their past with detachment and honesty. I like to think of myself as one of the “nice” guys, but lately I’ve been wondering if all the women I’ve dated would say the same. Not because I’ve…

Something that the last few weeks have made me done is really go over my own past in the hopes that I could convince myself that I was one of the “good” guys and while I know I’m on solid ground in terms of always having consent when I’ve had sex I do really wonder about how I’ve acted in all-male spaces in…

I like the notion of Tinsley as a “former socialist,” but she seems to have always been pretty capitalist preppy. I mean, she married a guy named “Topper”....

I’m sure the last straw was the Weinstein situation. They realized it was a bad look they were still working with him even though he’s been a known disgusting for years. So now they’re trying to cover their asses before sites are turned back onto him.

Realizing they might face some consequences. Nothing that could have happened to the women would have mattered.

re: Terry Richardson, better late than never I guess? Wonder what the final straw was.

“She is not acting like a victim. She should be doing X, Y and Z instead.”

If she was really raped, why didn’t she go the cops?

Also as in: “we’re gonna force you to have the kid, and after that you’re on your own. No way are we gonna help provide for a refugee kid, fuck that shit.”

“But why don’t women come forward????”

sacred vessels, not people!

“only life-affirming options”

Someone should tell the Republicans they’re embracing sharia law.