Maybe this is a cliched option, but The Woman Warrior? Love that book. Also Audre Lorde's Zami.

I've only visited the city, so no moving advice, but CONGRATULATIONS. Such a big deal! My best friends all live in SF and they love it, and I love to visit. My only advice: EAT ALL THE THINGS at Tartine Bakery, but especially croissants. Because they are delicioussss.

I wish I had advice, but I don't. I just want to give your son hugs, though. He seems like such an amazing, sweet kid. Kids can be little monsters.

Except her face looks so freaky in motion as well! I'm sure some if not all of her photos are shopped, of course. And the before pictures of her face are beautiful, absolutely. But her Barbie look is very Night of the Living Dolls. (I can see where men would find her figure attractive, it's her face that throws me…

Wait. Really?? You'd prefer Valeria to a woman with proportions/face of a an SI Swimsuit model? Or a Victoria's Secret model? Or a high fashion model? Or any movie star of your choice? I mean, people can't help who they're attracted to, but I'm genuinely curious if you find her face attractive. My highly scientific…

I did not know that! Which culture? There's nothing about it in that center of all knowledge, Wikipedia.

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Replying to this discussion in general: I am from a culture that occasionally gets appropriated in ways that make me feel very uncomfortable, and I agree that cultural appropriation as a concept is getting thrown around too much. I don't think that means it doesn't exist at all. Two of my criteria for determining…

Well, I am not white, though I'm pretty well-off, and I don't think Idris Elba is particularly beautiful/classically handsome, but I'm wildly attracted to the role he played in Luther, and now whenever I see him I can't separate him from that character and I can't help loving him. Also, his voice is deep and…

I didn't know who she was so I looked up Torah Bright and she is so pretty! Good taste in looks.

There's another thread about this topic already. I'm unclear why you are responding to me with this statement about this mythical scenario, since a) I made no comments about the video and b) I said nothing of the sort.

Well, I concluded absolutely nothing about you except that you're a troll, so that particular leap is one you'll have to find someone else to take. I mean, you posted this on Jezebel. You knew what was going to happen. You said this because you figured it would maximize the number of Jezzies you could freak out, not…

I know this dude is probably trolling to watch us jump like good fish to the bait, but it depresses me that there are men out there who actually think like this (among other things, that women's sexuality exists for their personal pleasure, that "men" only refers to straight men, and so on). It must be nice to belong…

Ooh me too! I had lasik a few years ago and have been building up my sunglasses collection.

Sorry, are you saying that when people who are oppressed disagree with their oppressors without using nice manners, it means they have a superiority complex? Demanding that oppressed peoples talk politely is very much about asking them to make their oppressors feel comfortable.

I know you mean well, but as someone once said to me, liberation movements are not validated by how comfortable they make the oppressors. People who are oppressed do not have to be nice just to make their oppressors feel good. MLK said, "Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor, it must be demanded by the…

please do.

I didn't look carefully at every image, but at a glance it certainly looks like only Tyra and Beyonce are NOT white? (I suppose some of the other models may not identify as white, but just by looking at the covers they all seem white.) I don't know why I find this so shocking, but...really?

Poor baby. Hugs hugs hugs.

A+++ rant. Also, I'd choose Zoidberg over Rush anyday.