Did everyone else not immediately assume that it was Jennifer Lawrence?

Nope, sorry, definitely a myth, definitely 100% patriarchal garbage fed to you. No woman should experience pain/bleeding/tearing during first time sex.

No, you’re just spreading misinformation. There is no One True Way to have a first time. Posting the same pop-sexuality video over and over again doesn’t change that many girls have a different experience than yours, and that the reality of our experience isn’t a patriarchal myth nor the result of doing things wrong.…

I find it fascinating a society obsessed with propriety that's not religous-shame based. What gives?

and yet, this enlightened, feminist, well-self-explored, well-foreplayed, long-term-relationshipped virgin experienced plenty of pain. and it got better.

It is impossible to make sweeping generalizations about hymens, because they vary enormously from woman to woman.

Uh, reproductive freedom is a fundamental right in the US; we’ve gone over this (remember when forced sterilization was a thing? And then we decided that was barbaric and inhumane?) and we aren’t facing an overpopulation crisis, anyway.

I think there probably is something wrong with finding people “disgusting” just because of the shape of their bodies. I’m with you on not wanting to fuck fat people because you aren’t attracted to them, but not wanting to fuck them because they are “disgusting” makes you sound like an ugly person.

Population control seems to be a solution eternally in search of a problem, and its proponents are almost always willing to ally themselves with really nasty people.

US birthrate is actually around the minimum to sustain it’s population and trends seem to say it might drop small enough to be troublesome (like Japan’s is). So it’s unlikely we would have those sanctions in the US in the near future.

My wife grew up in Lithuania under Soviet rule and I have a number of acquaintances and friends who grew up in the USSR as well. Trust me, “We don’t have sex in the USSR—we reproduce” was a common saying. The woman on Donohue was full of shit.

It’s not a myth, *at all.* It’s just not universal. Calling it a myth erases the experiences of a large portion of women, for whom losing their virginity involves a great deal of pain, tearing, and bleeding.

How on earth does being “young and dumb and informed” have anything to do with the anatomy of your body? Everybody’s body is different, there is no shame to bleeding and having painful sex the first time just like there’s no shame in not bleeding and having no pain the first time. Your statement makes no sense.

Read a book!

Our birth rate is just fine. In fact, without immigration we would be shrinking at a potentially unsustainable rate. (Shrinking the population too quickly can cause some serious problems with taking care of the elderly.)

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Attraction doesn’t occur in a vacuum. Once upon a time, not so long ago, it was the societal norm to be more into fat women than thin women. The class/body shape flip happened, and now we think the opposite. There’s no way attraction isn’t shaped by its cultural context. That is worth thinking about.

I think it’s because there are social and political issues around marginalization and stigma that deserved to be worked through. Like if someone said they “don’t date black people”—there’s a meaningful difference between that statement and “I don’t date men with facial hair”.

5’1” and 135 lbs is a BMI of 25.5, which means she would technically be barely overweight.

Maybe it’s because I am 5’0” 195lbs... but I have been 5’0” and 135lbs (Not to mention DD boobs) and in no way can I possibly consider that anywhere in the realm of “fat.” To me that is super in shape. I don’t have a problem with fat, but I just don’t think any reasonable person would consider a 5’1” 135lb woman or a…