A few years ago, maybe 2013 or 14, Secretary Hillary Clinton came to my work (not Wall Street, tech company) for a fireside chat and to promote her book. She talked at length about her experience as SOS, and one thing she discussed was how much “small offenses” matter to so many leaders and countries around the world,…

Unfuckable or... Wouldn’t fuck him? I think we all know what really pissed him off about her.

ATTENTION WHITE SISTREN: BLACK MEN DO NOT OWE YOU THEIR ATTENTIONS, SEXUAL OR OTHERWISE. PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL OF THEIR BODILY AUTONOMY, ESPECIALLY GIVEN HISTORICAL DENIAL OF SAID BY YOUR FUCKING PEOPLE.

Just a couple of Tea Party soccer moms chattin’ at Panera!

Oh, so we don’t have to fight stupid, victim-blaming, punching-down rape jokes in comedy anymore (and Lindy’s book comes to mind in doing its share of that work) because we’re “so strong” and “queens”? So victims (and any human being with a modicum of decency) don’t need to fight for the right to be viewed as humans?…

I can’t imagine the psychological position of having filmed a rape scene informed by one’s own experiences and then to find out that the writer and director who helped create it were also accused of rape. Moral vertigo.

I’m crying on the toilet, and I didn’t even have Chipotle yesterday.

Speaking as a survivor I want to say how empowering it can be to speak out. But it is also risky (this invites assholes to question or harass you) and it doesn’t come without sacrificing a part of your public identity; some people will always see you and think of you as a victim and not a complex individual with…

Ok you know what, I can count the number of people on one hand that I’ve ever called a cunt in my entire life, it’s not a word I use lightly.

When I was job hunting a bit less than a decade ago, the “common wisdom” among my fellow interviewee ladies was also that you shouldn’t wear an engagement (or wedding) ring—but back then the reasoning was not that potential employers would assume you were high maintenance. Rather, the rumored thinking was that an…

Thank you so much for saying this. PTSD is a disability because it disables people. There are those who can recover from it, but people who were raped multiple times, or over a period of months or years, often have PTSD for their entire lives because of the severity of repeated traumas. The disability, plus a lack of…

We measure the weight and severity of alleged rape against the damage it would do the accused’s life and achievements to acknowledge, but we never even consider what life and what achievements it robbed of the victim. Never.

I loved Jezspin so so much, especially when there would clearly be die-hard Deadspin readers arriving at work at 9am Mountain time, Pacific time, etc. so every hour brought a new wave of “wtf where is my manly sportz ball blog?! For menz?!?!?!”

Please clap.

Holy shit. People maybe aren’t backing down this time. I know the Senate vote got scuttled but this gives me hope that we won’t let this stand this time around.

I feel like when you choose to not drink around a new recovering alcoholic, it’s not just them, it’s for you. YOU are also trying to create new boundaries in ways in your relationship. I’d say it’s not necessarily about kid gloves, but about showing the person who is quitting that you respect them and support them and…