And she’s working for a republican and is involved in a sex scandal with a politician too, trying to see this a win for her is desperate reaching.

Gotta love how a bunch of critics and nerds are desperate to jump on this with jokes about insecurity when it’s pretty clear the stars know what their fans want to see and are good on delivering it.

Buddy you talk about trying to get someone to do something sexual that they don’t want to, anywhere on this site outside of, weirdly, this particular Savage Love column and see what happens.

I’m trying to not read anything into his character, I just noted she said they did try stuff and he still isn’t in to it, so there isn’t much left for them to work with on that point. He can continue to do stuff he doesn’t like or she can continue to do stuff she doesn’t like. They’re kinda doomed.

He has, they tried stuff, she didn’t think it was enough. But he did indulge her kinks despite them not being something he likes. Expecting people to do sexual things they don’t like after trying them out already is not asking for reasonable compromise. Say a guy likes choking people in sex, you think it’s ok for him…

You literally can’t “make” a dom or a sub anyway its either there or it isn’t, this relationship is doomed.

No, if he isn’t comfortable engaging in some sexual acts he should not be looking to compromise on that. If she isn’t satisfied with that she has to leave, or propose an open arrangement but that’s fraught with risks and potential to cause pain (and not the fun kind).

If he doesn’t like it after 7 years she shouldn’t be trying to make him still do it, this is obvious.

Of course. If it’s a dealbreaker then yeah you end it, you don’t threaten to end it unless they indulge your kinks.

Agree, and if after the open communication and actually trying ityour partner still isn’t into BDSM you can’t expect to guilt them into doing it or threaten them with the end of the relationship.

People do plenty of things to cast them in a better light and many times they don’t even do it consciously.

“Sometimes my partner wants to have sex and I don’t, but once we start to have sex”

“sex without foreplay is just him using her body to masturbate”

Bingo, pressuring someone into sexual acts they aren’t OK with is frowned upon quite heavily by most people, including Dan and this site’s writers and editors and the commenters too, and yet somehow this has been published and isn’t flooded with a bunch of people mad about DS advocating coercion. Incredible.

Eh, he’s on the writer’s new show. Besides, Patriot is fucking incredible.

Did you ever read the online novel Worm? It goes beyond even SFP imo with it’s ideas of what a world with super powered people would really be like. And of course it has some incredibly badass moments too.

Of course, so we should treat them as such.

“Avengers: Endgame is now the (not adjusted for inflation) all-time box-office champion because people love and believe in superheroes”

Yes correct he has a fictional character kill vicious evil murderers, and it’s fantastic(in both senses of the word), cathartic and hilarious.

Tarantino is quite sensibly casting the enemy as the free love counterculture youth“revolution”, which wasn’t, as the mainstream suggests, a revolution about freedom and collective consciousness but the beginning of a new source of selfish “individual” consumerism that we’re now living with the terrible consequences…