I guess you've met some strange or unusual people because no black person I've ever met has blamed me for their ancestors slavery (and my mother's side's ancestors certainly did at one point.) Just because your ancestors didn't own slaves doesn't mean that you aren't in some way favored because of your race or benefit…

I should have read the story but that is why I'm mad, believe me. I almost said it but didn't because I was rushed for time, that even assuming this is a gang violence issue, and I don't know what the hell happened obviously so I'm not saying it is, that doesn't mean it should be written off. I think it's shitty that…

I think it's a lot more complicated than seeking fame. There of plenty of other ways to achieve fame these days which requires little effort and no mass shootings. You make some weird YouTube video, you make a sex tape, you're 16 and pregnant. There are people who kill for years and never get caught and don't want to.…

One really has to wonder why this is "just another act of violence in New Orleans." I understand that the other incident involved bombs which makes people immediately think of terrorism but to downplay it as just something that happens in New Orleans is really fucking unfortunate. Nineteen people were shot. Why does…

Wow. Great journalism, folks.

Well maybe I don't FEEL privileged as a white girl because I'm broke and every day I'm just trying to make a meal out of as few dollars as possible but yeah, I'm STILL privileged. I'm still privileged because when I do interview for a job, it's more likely certain assumptions won't be made about me as they are about…

Using a phrase like that might help, since it just makes it clear we're going to be talking about stuff he may not want to hear about: aka stuff that doesn't have to do with him. Thanks!

Thanks for the feedback. It isn't that I don't feel he's a friend, he's just not my close friend. He'll hear it all eventually I'm sure but my concern is that he derails conversations I or his girlfriend want to have. Maybe they will get past that stage. They should be past it already since they've been together for…

I'm Irish and Irish people like you give us a bad name. I'm so sick of it. Yes, we were oppressed once. We're not anymore. People make an odd joke about alcoholism and potatoes. It's dumb but it's not anything like what our ancestors went through so don't bring that up. Now we're considered white and many of us are…

I have a bit of a friend problem here. It's pretty typical I guess. I haven't had much of a real conversation with one of my best friends in a long time and it has a little to do with her boyfriend. He's a good guy in many ways but he really dominates conversation and finds a way to make the conversation less of a…

I don't get it either. My scummy ex keeps texting me (I plan to change my phone number) asking if it's "the same" because I've obviously had more sex in the two years since I've seen him...I always tell him that's not how vaginas work but he doesn't get it. He's just so ignorant about...everything having to do with…

You don't know the slightest thing about lesbian and bisexual women. Shut the fuck up. Seriously. And I'm usually one of the more "polite" Jezzies.

If you're a man, I'd guess that you're right about straight men not criticizing you as much as other groups. I meant that for women, I think straight men are just as responsible, if not more likely to feel entitled to point out that the woman in question is not a proper sex object, and I've seen that time and time…

People are going to yell at me..."Don't respond to the troll!" but in the case that you are willing to have a conversation and that this won't be some death match, I politely disagree. There is this "Blame the gays" thing that happens whenever men talk about women trying to lose weight or women being unhealthy skinny…

Ah, I thought you were talking about the text. Maybe "If you're a rich dude," would have sufficed. Headline writing is reductive and it sucks, as someone who writes them occasionally. But that was a long one. It could have been shorter: There's One Instance Where it's OK to be pudgy—If You're a Rich Dude

I think she's just saying that the tiny sliver of the power structure happens to be overwhelmingly male, not that all men are powerful.

Just because chubby women EXIST in a FEW spaces on television does not mean it is anywhere near as acceptable to a chubster as a woman. For men it is considered unfortunate and a barrier to dating that can be overcome by a sense of humor, money, influence, etc. But for a woman it's like, "That's it. Either go to Fat…

That's funny, I also suggested James McAvoy (after seeing the movie) for a more interesting charismatic Nick. I don't think Tobey did a bad job of portraying naiveté or even wistfulness, but there was only a little bitterness thrown in towards the end of the movie, when you know why he has reason to be. I have to say…

Thanks for explaining that. Tom Hiddleston is a little cuter than Tobey. On a superficial level I can't disagree. I definitely need to reread the book now that my mind is colored by Baz Luhrmann's depiction.

I'd like to identify the douche-bros by their shoes. It would make life easier.