My favorite is everyone agrees with this image yet they then say their hometown summers are worse because of humidity.

Imagining something and having a realistic fear of something are very different. I can imagine being raped, but I don’t actually FEAR it happening to me, so it can he hard to put myself in a person who has shoes. I don’t think the guy was being disingenuous, and for a lot of men thinking about this happening to a…

Don’t worry, you just stirred up a Jezzy hornets nest. Just do yourself a favor, and don’t reply...you’ll be here all day.

I think you are willfully misunderstanding. As others have said in this chain, men simply aren’t conditioned with this fear. It’s possible and it does happen, but most men don’t have this internalized fear of being raped because it’s not an ever present threat. When I was 15, my english class read the Handmaid’s Tale…

You seem pretty offended, otherwise you wouldn’t be angrily replying to all these comments.

You must be confused. This is the internet. There’s no room for reasoned, respectful disagreement here.

If you’re a large male who doesn’t drink or do drugs, lives in a safe area and doesn’t travel much, your chances of being raped are incredibly low and exponentially lower than a female who does those things.

Really not getting why people are instantly jumping on you about this. Male here and my only experiences with sexual assault are a girlfriend who was stalked and I found her stalker outside her room, she continues to deal with anxiety issues from the ordeal. The other was being handed a spiked drink one of my friends…

I am a man who has been raped, and a man who has been beaten so badly I nearly drowned in my own blood (two separate incidents). I still say I do not know what a woman who is raped goes through, just as I would not expect someone who has never had a near death experience to empathize for me rather than with me. And 5…

Reading this myself, I saw where it was going from the first reply. This is clearly that type of person who delights in screaming at people because of how they state something, even when there is nothing wrong with it, because they didn’t use whatever speech characteristics said person thinks are “acceptable.” These…

I am blown away by the fact that anyone could dislike your response. I am a man that has all of those relationships to women, and my reaction was the same. I can’t comprehend peoples’ eagerness to be be offended/outraged.

Man, between Thoac and SarsAttacks I feel like they are baiting. The man obviously didn’t mean what he said in any of the ways these two people are going on about. It mostly just comes off as crazy. Like, I can’t take what they are saying seriously, and I’m a dude that was abused and raped as a child and can still…

The point that most good men are making when they say something along the lines of what that_other_guy said is that we want all women to be treated the way we treat our mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters. Yes, men can be and are raped (unfortunately it’s incredibly underreported due to the shame and stigma), but…

You’re going back and forth with someone who took issue with the particulars of the way you stated that rape is an awful, abhorrent thing. There was absolutely nothing wrong with your original statement. You were doing the right thing from the start.

Why bother.

Nah, its mostly because you and another commenter are acting like dicks because the internet outrage (which, let’s be clear, isn’t any more or less trite than yours) another commenter expressed wasn’t the flavor you prefer.

1) 5 seasons of “Girls” has taught me that 1) the only redeemable characters on the show are men, and 2) that Lena Dunham doesn’t know how to, or doesn’t want to write compelling roles for Black people. So I don’t think binge-watching the Shonda Rimes lineup is the answer. Your initial comment of “we are people…

“I for one am sick of dealing with men who choose not to empathize.”

You read a story about a woman and you related to it directly because you are, in all likelihood, a woman. We, men, read that story and we relate to it indirectly through the women who are special to us. Women tell us all the time that we can’t know what it’s like to be women, but we need to try harder to do something…

Right now I’m imagining a world where people just accept a young man’s attempt at empathising without ripping him to shreds over semantics. You're the worst.

I can’t think of a big enough punishment for this kind of crime. I am a son, brother, husband, and father to the women and girls in my life. I can't even imagine one of them having to go through something so heinous.