Yup. I've said it before and I'll say it again: it is not the job of women alone to fix rape culture. Systemic problems can't be solved on an individual level—the burden of fixing the culture has to be shared collectively.

why do people seem to think that learning self-defense and teaching men not to rape are mutually exclusive? no one is blaming the victim if she gets rape, anything she can do to protect herself is good. also no one is blaming rape victims for not knowing self defense. we can try to teach people not to murder or…

it's the champagne of venereal diseases.

When I moved to the United States in 1999, I dealt with plenty of overt racism from bullies. One high school bully used to push me around and shout in gym class: "go home immigrant!". It doesn't get much more "accepting and progressive" than that, doesn't it? Guess what? I toughened up, grew some thick skin, and ended…

Good grief, you guys are so overly sensitive and politically correct that it is profoundly annoying. I am Asian American; I was born in Taiwan. When people ask me where I'm from, I would usually reply: "are you asking which city in the US, or my ethnic background?" Sometimes they're asking about the former, sometimes…

One of the more unpleasant days of my life involved stopping for gas at a rural gas station at dusk, where a pickup full of guys shouted, whistled, and offered various suggestions of activities I might do with them at me while I willed the gas to pump faster so I could get the hell out of there. One mile down the…

Teenage girls occasionally do it in a bullying way.

I've seen this in Oakland, and at least one incident resulted in a knock-down, drag-out brawl in the middle of the street at about 11 am.

I haven't either and I live in Los angeles. I've been told that I have a rather terrifying countenance, so that might be one reason. There's just something about the way I carry myself that doesn't lend itself to street harassment. It's the face, closed off body language, and height.

Maybe she was just a bitch? Why are you giving her the benefit of the doubt and assuming you were "like the tenth" guy to approach her when she didn't give you the benefit of the doubt to process your perfectly respectful question before flipping out?

I live in New York City. Just an odd thing about myself, it seems.

Am I the only woman alive that doesn't get catcalled and/or harassed? I'm not complaining, I consider myself lucky in that respect, and I feel awful for the women and men who are subjected to it. At the same time, however, I just don't get why such a common occurrence has never occurred in my own life.

I wonder if that's because more couples can't afford full-time daycare though? When I was a kid our town had public preschool. Now that's gone. I know at least one couple where the dad stays home in the winter rather than getting a job (he's a construction worker) because the money he'd bring home would largely be…

Haha, I'm not quite that bad.

What about black and white photos while you suck on your cheeks and make faces at the camera = deeply thoughtful and sexy?

*raises hand, shakes head at self*

I'm short, chubby, and have been compared to a Troll doll more times than I can count. If I can find love, you can too.

Why are we empowered when we buy a vibrator, but a man who buys a fleshlight is a 'lonely fuck'?

" what kind of a lonely fuck would use one of those?"Jesus. That's a bit harsh. I'm surprised at you Jezebel as you are usually very pro masturbation and against shaming people for pleasing their bodies.