I only ever had one guy notice that I was being harasssed. Our dads were friends, but we didn’t really know each other besides occasional garden parties etc. He was a slacker and not the sharpest tool in the shed, but that day he really rose in my esteem. We were both around 20 when his family moved to another house.…

Because women haven’t been raised to believe that other people’s bodies exist for them to judge and leer at and comment on.

I keep telling my male friends who are slow to get it: “Privilege is all the things you DON’T have to think about.”

Yep. They habitually see the world that way, in that women are mere objects put here for their pleasure— and they don’t remember sexually harassing or assaulting you any more than they remember blowing their nose on a certain tissue. For you, it’s the day you felt so violated you could never trust strangers again; for…

I’m not sure which Kinja site it was on, but not too long ago, when the topic of “Why don’t women come forward sooner?” came up re workplace harassment, somebody gave the basic explanation— fear of retaliation, a knowledge that the system won’t do anything to help you, & fear of not being believed— some male type…

It depends. A lot of guys won’t catcall/harass a women when another man is around, so it’s partially that. Also, it’s hard to reconcile what you’re seeing/hearing from women with the idea that people/men are “basically decent.” Some guys just aren’t up for the shattered worldview, I assume.

Yeah, the Emily Chang excerpt in Vanity Fair talks a lot about this, and how it is a trap for women.

This reminds me of the phrase “the banality of evil” - the legitimization and normalization of actions that are clearly wrong, and the willingness of so many people to look away, rather than confront.

Yes that is exactly what it is. SV is such a bizarre place that it’s becoming routine among these weirdo rich fucks to have parties like this. They are not advertised as such, normal business goes down too, and other people have said that they also did not know it was a sex party and did not see the sex/drugs. Either…

Yeah, my first thought would be that they had no dogs for me to ignore people with.

They’re for the sex parties Elon Musk doesn’t know he’s attending.

Something something Pagan fertility celebration

I can’t count the number of times I’ve innocently shown up to a sex party and it turned out to be a business meeting. I feel Musk’s pain. :(

I believe him too. I once was the only person who didn’t know my fave coffee shop was hosting after hours orgies. When they started listing all my friends who participated, I ran from the room screaming “No details, no details!”

I accidentally bought a vibrator that I thought was a back massager for the white elephant game this Christmas and had no idea until both my fiance and Mom went “Oh no, Pixie, that’s a vibrator. You CAN’T bring that to Christmas!” And proceeded to laugh at me hysterically.

Who wouldn’t want Elon Musk at their sex party? He’s hot. And if he is secretly a robot he’s a better design then Mike Pence and his weird lego hair.

I feel like a good rule of thumb is thumb is that if it has white fur pillow and someone dressed as a bunny, it’s a sex party.