I read Holly’s book and she made it sound like Hefner at least asked, “Would you like some quaaludes?” before dosing his partners.
I never imagined a world in which that felt less gross to say, but here we are.
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It’s not just Asian families that do this (I grew up in one myself). Having gone to an Ivy I saw my share of kids from all kinds of different cultures that suffered similar things. One of my close friends is black and grew up with being constantly told she needed to set an example and be a model for the entire black…
This entire story is just so sad. I grew up similarly, although I skirted the not allowed to do anything with school projects that took place after school which still allowed me some social life. But I wasn’t allowed to date or have sleepovers or go out with my friends on the weekends. All I was allowed to do was…
Yeah, I agree. It’s important to keep in mind that with this kind of a family structure in her childhood, there was probably a ton of emotional abuse that didn’t get reported on in detail in this article that might make the extremity of her decisions make more sense. Just the basic outline of her life that we get here…
the moral of the story is be nice to your kids.
Seriously? I am going to make a big assumption, but anyone who knows a hitman probably doesn’t come from a very good upbringing either. And I’ve said it before upthread: abuse does not end at adulthood. Filial piety is a very important thing in Asian culture. If you haven’t lived it, you have no right to tell her to…
Except that simply having that stereotype around can lead to these people thinking they have to live up to that stereotype to be accepted.
I realize that what she did was so so wrong but I actually understand where she’s coming from. When the expectations of you are that high and you fail to meet them, you feel desperate to cover it up and make it go away. For someone in a family like that, your entire worth is centered around what you are achieving and…
That’s the big hurdle though. When you’re raised like this it take a LOT to realize you can live out on your own.
I’m 25 and I’ve also never been to a club, been drunk, or um.... “visited a friend’s cottage.” WTF.
Wait, I’m confused. How is she now 28? If she fooled the parents for 2 years after pretending to graduate from high school, she would be around twenty. Unless she lived with their restrictions and planned the murder for several years...? Someone please help me out.
People tell me that the “Model Minority” stereotype is harmless.
I think this present case is a good example of why that notion is wrong.
Ohh, wow, but wait— neither one of those RawStories actually goes into this guy’s anti-woman problem in any depth! It’s, like, mentioned in passing, and then they go on and on about his mental illness and political history.
I’ll bet they’re working on it right now.... I know Jez is the space I’m going to be watching for updates, anyway. If the expected pattern holds, Jez will be one of the only outlets pointing out the connection (if, indeed, that manifesto exists & is found) (I’m betting ten bucks and a bottle of Tito’s on it).
Would it be too much to ask Jezebel to give it attention?
That’s the obvious assumption, whichI’m going to go ahead & jump to— I’ll be surprised if it turns out that he *doesn’t* have a long rambling batshit anti-woman manifesto written somewhere. This guy is a type.
My first thought too— but my second thought was, “No, it will NOT get the attention deserves. His misogyny will be glossed-over, just like Eliot Rodgers’.” A racial motivation makes national headlines and gets nationwide reaction; a misogynist motivation gets swept under the rug and shrugged off as “Oh well, he was…
For my 19th birthday, my parents gifted me a miniature fondue pot because I LOVE fondue. I had all these dreams of having friends over for fondue parties, which is ridiculous because the thing holds maybe 20 ounces and is kept warm by a miniature tealight. But I cannot get rid of it. I’ve had it through multiple moves…
Is it at all possible this guy was targeting women? Specifically women not subscribing to a specific moral standard? I saw “Trainwreck” last night. The theater was mostly full of women, typical for a romantic comedy (a particularly and successfully feminist one, in my opinion). I imagine the theater in Lafayette had…